Well, my boyfriend talks to my friend a lot, he doesn't flirt or anything but when he talks to her he seems to be having a laugh, and he messages her first.
When he's saying hello he's like 'hya :D' and when he's talking to me its like 'hya baby xx'

Mmhh, I don't know either if I'm being pathetic or stupid. I just feel like he enjoys speaking to her than me.

I've spoken to him about this and he's like 'i'll stop talking to her if you want' and I'm like 'no because it's me being jealous' but on top of that he tells me that he doesn't like her in that way and he's just being friendly because he's moving her school when we move back.
I've known my friend for over 11 years, I went primary with her but we lost contact for a long time, I know she wouldn't flirt with him anyway. She said she doesn't like him in that way.

Ahh, I'm just scared I don't make him happy :(

Helpp?

Well, recently my boyfriend is moving schools and there's this girl there that I've known for years. Okay, to get onto the subject of what I'm trying to say is, every time he's at home and he's on msn he messages her, things like 'hya :D' but when he's at mine he seems like he doesn't care if he's speaking to her.

I've discussed this with him but he says he only speaks to her when he's at home because he's bored. But I don't know if I can believe this? They talk 24/7 when he's alone, he even talks to her more than me.

He's told me that he doesn't like her in that way and he's only trying to be nice so he can make friends when he goes his new school, but why does he never do it when I'm there?

I read all the convos with him and her anyway, it's nothing bad but they do have a laugh. I dunoo, I just feel like he's trying to get her into the picture.

I've tried talking to him about it but he says the same things, he's even offered to not talk to her but I can't do that cause he'll not know anyone in the new school when he goes. But I feel like if I keep talking about it too him that he's going to finish me.

We've been together for 1year,1month,1week&sixdays.

I just need some help? :(

After reading some of your posts, I decided to post this rather then answer your current question.

Rather than analyze your relationship with your boyfriend, I believe at fourteen you should really be analyzing your relationship with yourself.

When you feel a void in your life, another person can't fill that void. You have to love and respect yourself first and in turn others will learn to love and respect you. If they don't, it won't affect you because you will believe in yourself. Good luck.

Building Self-Esteem: A Self-Help Guide

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Justwantfair

After reading some of your posts, I decided to post this rather then answer your current question.

Rather than analyze your relationship with your boyfriend, I believe at fourteen you should really be analyzing your relationship with yourself.

When you feel a void in your life, another person can't fill that void. You have to love and respect yourself first and in turn others will learn to love and respect you. If they don't, it won't affect you because you will believe in yourself. Good luck.

Building Self-Esteem: A Self-Help Guide

---

Thank you :(

I think this is more about your own feelings, than what he is doing.

Its not like he goes behind your back, or anything devious, so I think you should believe him,let it go, and see how your own feelings have made you scared, not his actions.

But I just feel like if I let go then everythings going to go back to how it was, he's going to lie again.

Mmm I don't know, I just need something to make me jump that bit further in trusting him.

I don't want to loose him, he's everything to me :(

Try to trust not only him but life itself.maybe you could try to let go a bit and not over analyze things?

Depending on some one else to be your everything, leads to a lot of problems, one being you depend on them too much, and there is no way a human being can live up to your expectations of them.

As I said in another post of yours, you need someone with experience, to help guide you to what is really important in your life, and what is not. Through building your own sense of self, you can better handle your own fears, and insecurities, yourself. Then you will not be so dependent on another to be happy with your life, which you must learn to manage.

What I mean is how do I get myself confidence up? And in inscuraties down?

Most of us build confidence through growth, and the experience of accomplishment. Making good grades, and having positive experiences, when we are young, and we build on those accomplishments through adulthood.

Also parents, teachers, and good friends, gives us confidence through their love, and support. When you get a lot of love, and support you will accomplish the right things for yourself, and that will build your confidence up also. That's what makes you independent, as you have the confidence to make good decisions about what important in your life.

Another confidence builder is learning to love yourself for who you are, without any one telling you how special you are.

Again, the right love, and support, is what makes a difference whether you will love yourself, because there are many who do not love themselves enough to do what's right for them, and they take the easy way out, by latching on to someone who shows them the love, and attention they need to feel loved, but it always backfires, when you depend on someone other than yourself to love you.

You must love yourself, to have a healthy love for another, and not be dependent on them. That's what gives you the confidence to make good decisions for yourself.

Sorry I got so long winded, but I hope I answered your question.

Right, this isn't a question it's more of how I've been feeling after taking some of your advises.

Me and my boyfriend have been having a great couple of days after me changing abit, he slept at mine last night as well. I feel great.. my trust for him is really rebuilding.. I keep telling him how I feel and he really understands. I told him that I was scared if I let go of the past everything is going to go back to square one and he's going to be a prick again by lying to me but he told me to take my time. He said I can check up on him whenever I like. And he also said he has nothing to hide anymore, he doesn't want me and him to be over and that he loves me.

We still have arguments though, but there just silly ones.. we're trying our hardest not to argue though. The arguments are over things like 'youre not going on the laptop' or 'do this or do that' and one or the other doesn't want to do it.

Anyway I just thought I'd post all this to tell you all I feel a lot better in myself.. I've started looking in the mirror thinking 'don't let nobody tell you you're not beautiful' and to be honest it's made the world of good to me. Even though it seems a bit weird. :)

Thank you everyone for your advise. You've really helped me :D:)