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I've been in a relationship for 15 years the last 5 or so years I have'nt been happy or felt loved an I want out how do I tell him

You just tell them if you are sure. If it is at this point, they should know anyway.

Have you tried counseling to try and work itout

No. No counseling we don't talk much it's just that I don't know how to tell him.

Easyer said them done..

Are you married to that person?

Why not just try to work things out? If the other person doesn't know you want out, that means that you haven't really discussed what makes you unhappy with them.

Tell him what you just said.

Would you consider counseling?

Do you have children?

I don't thing there's anything to save... were not married and we don't have any children together.. he has 1 and I have 2 there all adults.. it's hard to tell him I know what I want to say and how I want to say it but it won't come out... I love him but I'm not in love with him.

He surely must know some spark has fled over the past half decade. Perhaps he is also in a similar situation, but doesn't know how to say it...

Hey..
15 years is a long time..
If its what you want.. make time to talk to him..
Write down what you want to say,don't wing it!
Be clear.. and understand that this may be totally out of the blue to him..
Gather support behind you,even though your ready to separate it will still be emotionally hard..
Just start with... we need to talk,I'm not happy,I want out... or words to that effect...
But be clear..

Try falling in love again with him...

Just be honest about your feelings with him.

After 15 years, he deserves honesty from you regardless of what you have to say.

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Originally Posted by Elousia

try falling in love again with him.....

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Bad idea. After 15 years together, I think the love and spark is totally gone. Break off with him and see how you feel being single

Wait a second, I smell a rat here. Is there someone else? Somewhere you rather be?/ What has changed?

Why can't you talk to someone after 15 freakin' years?

I got dumped after ten years, and he did not even give me a reason other than I have not been in love with you for two months, I was like WHAT?? I did not know where it was coming from, but guess what? I took some time to reflect, and I am glad he ended it with me, and it was better off for us in the end, don't prolong it thinking it will hurt him, it will hurt anyway, just give him and yourself a chance to find what makes you happy in life, and it is not fair to string him along to make you feel less guilty. If you really loved him, you would let him go to find someone that he deserves to be with, to be happy with. You are just being selfish if you keep him around because you are a coward and don't want to list reasons for the breakup. Give him a little respect.

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Originally Posted by xadmin

Bad idea. After 15 years together, I think the love and spark is totally gone. Break off with him and see how you feel being single

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The only way the love and sparks can leave a relationship is when you stop working on the relationship.

That said five years is a long time to be unhappy and not doing anything about it! You aren't married, no children together, if you can walk away from a fifteen year investment feeling like you gave you 100% or you are happy walking away knowing you gave 2%, it's your choice, but fifteen years is a long investment and you should have been working on the return of your investment for the last fifteen years.