Ask Me Help Desk - Friendship to relationship

I know it's happened many times before.. were bestfriends start having feelings for each other..

My story is... I had a friend that I've known since the 8th grade when I was 13...
She was really k0ol.. always there for me no matter what! But then she met this guy.who evetually became her boyfriend they were always together sometimes she would even forget about me! Me and him didn't really hit it off! I kind of hated him for taking my best friends away and he sort of hated me because I would try keeping her away! Me being a 15 year old girl witout a best friend to call my own was tourture!

10th grade came.. she was having doubts about her sexuality. Everyone knew she was bisexual even though she denied it! Her and this girl were TOOO close.. close enough that she ditched me and her boyfriend just to be with this lesbian[dont have nothing against gay's] so me and this guy[her boyfriend] got really close he would come over everyday we had nothing to do.. we would hang out everyday! Eventually became the BESTEST FRIENDS no one thought we would be.. not even us! But things were getting weird.. we both liked each other a lot.. we would deny it so my friend started noticing that me and her boyfriend were bff's! She would get jealous &&mad but me and him didn't care much! Seriously I don't know why he was with her for so long.. me and him would go anywhere together yew name it.. we've been there.. so we even partied together! But one night we were both drinking.. he leaned in and kissed me.. I pulled away knowing it was wrong! Days passed it was awkward between us..

He confessed his feelings to me.. as I did too... we were deeply into each other!
But didn't do anything because of his girlfriend[my friend] eventually she got tired of him not having time or repect for her.. she broke up with him.. a week later he asked me to be his girlfriend.. I really liked this guy I so badly wanted to be his girlfriend but I felt bad for her..
I said YES she was mad at me at first and so were other people. But I didn't really care because for the first time I was feeling HAPPY and wanted it was amazing we lasted 3 months.. but things got weird between us.. our friendship wasn't the SAME :(( so as a choice we decided to brake it off and just be FRIENDS! ITS BEEN 3 WEEKS SINCE n I can't stop thinking about him what should I do? I miss him a lot! And she's trying to get back in his life... me and him are close again.. but there isn't a moment where I wish I could kiss him and tell him how much I need him here with me.

I know if I don't give up me and him could get together again!
If I really set my mind to it... I know I can feel that he's still into me.. by the way he l0oks into my eyes or gets shy when I ask him certain things :)

Should I be strong.. hold on..
Or give up and move on to someone else?! :confused::confused::confused::(

Love triangles get very emotional, and very messy, so you should stay out of it, and let them resolve their issues one way or another.

Basically, he and you were cheating behind her back, any way. Do real friends do that??

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Love triangles get very emotional, and very messy, so you should stay out of it, and let them resolve their issues one way or another.

Basically, he and you were cheating behind her back, any way. Do real friends do that???

I mean I know its mest up to her but I waited I would have been more of a "bad friend" if I did anything with him while they were still together!

She told me once I'd rather see him be happy and if you are his happiness then there's nothing I can do!
But not she's like trying to come in again

-Nothing worse than two supposed friends, competing for the same guy, bet that strokes his ego, but what does it say about him, that he can't make a choice, and be upfront about it??

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Originally Posted by talaniman

-Nothing worse than two supposed friends, competing for the same guy, bet that strokes his ego, but what does it say about him, that he can't make a choice, and be upfront about it???

I'm sure he's feeling like a pimp!
I've tried staying away from both.. her I feel bad for so eventually end up talking to her again!. from the things she's done to me in the past I've admitted to her.. dat I hated her for a while.. n she talked her yes... but we ended up appreciating eachothers honesty.. lol
And him.. wat can I do.. im into the guy...
We are bff's.. we go everywhere together he knows my whole entire fam bam.. && I know his tooo..

I stay away.. n he comes back!
Maybe because he's meant to be here..?

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I stay away.. n he comes back!
maybe because he's meant to be here..?

Or he is a dog, sniffing for easy targets to pimp his BS to!! Don't fall for it, feeling or not!!

Sounds to me like you both want him.
She had him, you got him, and now you are trying to avoid the consequences of your actions.

Stay out of relationships that involve friends unless you are ready to handle the problems that come from them.

In the meantime, your friendship is ruined, and this jerk has two girls after him.

I know two friends shudnt fight over a guy.
Specially a guy who plays around with two girls.. he doesn't like her he's said it straight out so many times on sat its going to be a month we broke up &&till now they haven't gotten back together because he obviously don't like her.. he still likes me he's said it but also showed me actions speak louder than words..
Little things the liil details still show me he does..

I'm not saying I want him now next to me.im still his best friend and I'd rather have him as a friend still in my life than not have him there at all! im going to be 18 I'm old enough to know when I'm hurting someone or when things aren't right.. but if life throws yew a chance an opportunity to something you always wanted.. woulnt yew guys take it..
My big shot was that this guy liked me back!
I t0ok it.. to0ok the chance for happiness we aren't together anymore but we are still great friends... and I'm happy for that
Her.. we still talk.. we've said it how weird that through everything we've been through we still talk and have each other we isn't bff's anymore but we are really close.. friendship isn't ruined! There's juss a lot of missunderstanding, confushion, and resentment!

Question did he openly say "I don't like her, I like you, blah blah blah" or did he only say it to you?

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Originally Posted by LeNNeRd

...im going to be 18 im old enough to know when im hurting someone or when things aren't right...

First off, age and maturity are two completely different things.
Both the fact that you think your age has anything to do with maturity shows your lack thereof. Plus, your lack of proper English shows the same.

If you think you know when you are hurting someone, do you even know when you're hurting yourself? Because that's all you are doing.