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  • Aug 22, 2009, 08:46 PM
    Saiyuri
    It Is So Hard to Orgasm.
    I was always concerned with whether I had a loose vagina. But I was talking with this guy and had sent him pics (sounds so bad but we're just friends), and he said I looked really tight. My previous bfs did have small penises, but I don't know...

    Other than that it still doesn't make sense to me, why I take so long to get off. Because guys usually first anyway, so for me to take extra long kind of sucks. Lol

    Suggestions?
  • Aug 22, 2009, 08:51 PM
    Synnen

    How old are you?
  • Aug 22, 2009, 09:03 PM
    Saiyuri

    Oh, 20. Sorry, I forgot. Lol
  • Aug 22, 2009, 09:04 PM
    Saiyuri
    Been having sex off and on since I was 16. No, 17. Lol
  • Aug 22, 2009, 09:11 PM
    Synnen

    Do you masturbate?

    You should.

    How can anyone ELSE know how to get you to orgasm if you don't know?

    You should ALSO institute a "me first" rule---he doesn't get his until you get yours.
  • Aug 22, 2009, 09:21 PM
    Saiyuri

    I didn't masturbate until I was 19. Lol And I got to where I did it everyday. But now I do it maybe once a week. With a prop. Lol

    Clitoral stimulation is all I head but it just kind of gets boring. And maybe the guy just sucked but getting eaten out was boring too. O.o

    Do I have sexual ADD? XD
  • Aug 22, 2009, 09:25 PM
    Synnen

    Nope... you have impatient partners, and too much of a goal in mind when you're in bed.
  • Aug 22, 2009, 09:30 PM
    Saiyuri

    Well my 1st boyfriend was an infamous minute man. The one after him was a 5ish minute man. And my boyfriend after him we would go for like 2 hours and he just couldn't hold it anymore... So often times I would get disappointed...
  • Aug 22, 2009, 09:33 PM
    Synnen

    You need to be willing to self-stimulate during sex---and please be aware that MOST women cannot orgasm during sex.

    Better for him to help you orgasm other ways BEFORE intercourse even begins.
  • Aug 22, 2009, 09:38 PM
    Saiyuri

    I would help. I didn't at first but then I was like, I have to get in there and help too. Lol

    They would try but then I'd get bored and say let's have sex rather than foreplay... And usually after I orgasm then I'm done. I was probably just mad because of all the times he got off and not me though... lol >w<'
  • Aug 22, 2009, 09:41 PM
    Wondergirl

    Females ALWAYS take longer than guys -- a LOT longer!

    Please go to your local library or look at some well-written web sites to learn about female sexuality.

    And please stop sending pictures of your private parts to anyone.
  • Aug 22, 2009, 09:45 PM
    Saiyuri
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Females ALWAYS take longer than guys -- a LOT longer!

    Please go to your local library or look at some well-written web sites to learn about female sexuality.

    And please stop sending pictures of your private parts to anyone.



    I have stopped sending pics. But even if I didn't then that's no one's business except my own. I was just letting y'all know what he said and how he even knew. So don't judge me or criticize me in ANY way.
  • Aug 22, 2009, 09:50 PM
    Synnen

    Please don't get insulting.

    You asked for advice--you got it.

    I edited your response to take the rude part out.
  • Aug 22, 2009, 09:51 PM
    Saiyuri

    Well if she was not going to actually help y post. Doesn't make sense. I asked for advice not judgement.
  • Aug 22, 2009, 09:55 PM
    Synnen

    You're posting on a public board on the internet.

    What, exactly, do you expect?

    You are GOING to get judged. If you don't like it, don't post on public boards.
  • Aug 22, 2009, 09:58 PM
    Saiyuri

    Then point me somewhere with helpful advice Only. I'll gladly go.
  • Aug 22, 2009, 10:10 PM
    Synnen

    A lawyer, a doctor, a psychiatrist, or anyone else you PAY for only helpful advice is a sure bet for a place to ONLY get helpful advice.

    I've been trying to help you, but I won't tolerate childish snottery like name calling.

    This is a free site, you're getting free advice, and believe it or not, our members DO want to help you. Sometimes people NEED to hear how others view them in order to get to a healthier lifestyle.

    And--you have to admit--sending explicit pictures of yourself to someone isn't exactly a smart idea.
  • Aug 22, 2009, 10:14 PM
    Saiyuri

    I know. U've been helpful but... Not that chick. Not to me at least. She obviously didn't read what all I've said.

    I'm not childish. Just defensive.

    I haven't sent Anymore nude pics out. Me and the guy r still great friends and he always tries to point me in the right direction. But to him, me getting off just means a big... thing. And I think my problem requires more than just that.
  • Aug 22, 2009, 10:19 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Saiyuri View Post
    Then point me somewhere with helpful advice Only. I'll gladly go.

    I suggested your local public library (Dewey Decimal number 312) and also well-written web sites.

    I had said "please" and didn't expect verbal retaliation. Most females do not orgasm during intercourse. Reading and looking at the illustrations in a book such as The Joy of Sex would be a good place to start.
  • Aug 22, 2009, 10:22 PM
    Saiyuri

    I don't consider adding 'please' in front of an almost command too polite... But that's just me perhaps.

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