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  • Aug 21, 2009, 02:26 PM
    Lost_baby
    How can I get my boyfriend back.
    Moved and edited for chat/text, to its own thread.

    The problem is
    That last year he caught me with my ex but were just talking
    And he forgave me and everything is good but after that day he never trust me like before
    Now a guy who want me badly made a lot of problems between us and he start to tell him a lot of things about me
    My boyfriend believed him because he's studying at uni in another country(we are not seeing each other a lot because every one is in a country:S)but every weekend we are together anyway
    The problem that he believed him and the other guy told him about a gift he gave to me at my birthday and I didn't tell my boyfriend because I don't want to make fight
    My story is so complicated but REALLY I need a help
    I know my boyfriend h much he loves me he knows a lot of a girls before me but he never falling in love I'm the first love in his life(but he doesn't want me anymore because first he doesn't trust me second, that all his friends telling him forget her she's not good to you
    And we are broken up for about a month now, he's saying that he loves me and he needs me but it just the end because he's thinking that I'll make this things in future
    But if you want the truth that I love him and all the things that I did it's from the past and when I start to love him from all my heart and I start to feel that his all my life
    And now I'm going to change my college to be with him at the same college we just not together I don't know I'm so lost I need a help I want him back with out doing anything
    I want him to tell me that he want to get back to each other not me
    I need a help
    Thanks
  • Aug 22, 2009, 07:33 AM
    talaniman
    To start with, long distance relationships are hard to maintain, and your b/f is not very trusting because he is insecure, right or wrong, because of your innocent, in my opinion, behavior.

    Secondly, since he broke it off, he is the one to want to come back, and that has to be without your influence, as you can't control the feelings of others.

    Also moving to be closer to him, may help, but it's a big risky move on your part, but it does eliminate the distance, but will it get him back? I think you have to wait, and see how he feels about that.

    Normally I would say leave him alone, as he sounds to immature for an adult, healthy relationship, but since you have invested the time and effort to move closer to him, you may as well talk to him, and see what happens, as I truly doubt it will help, but it's a risk you have to take.

    At least you'll know where your headed with him, and can let go, and move on, or restart something between you.
  • Aug 22, 2009, 03:27 PM
    Lost_baby
    Edited. Please read. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...lk-303157.html

    Well thanks about what you said you are truly right but talking to him is a very hard thing because he doesn't want to he said(to his friends)that meeting me or talking to me make him weaken and he doesn't want that because by his opinion leaving each other is the right thing
    Anyway I'm so tired from This situation it's very hard that both of us love each other a lot but the people gets inside your relation and start to make problems o his problem that he listen a lot to the people


    And by the way you are right leaving it for the days is the better thing maybe but what I'm afraid from that he meeting new girl and maybe she's smart and make him love her very much at that time it will be very hard for me because I can't forget him

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