I amvery confussed.I was datin this guy for a yr. and 2 months we broke up.He called it off cause I told him I was tired off all the bull he kept on doing.I knew well at least felt like he was cheating with diff. women and he had gotten to the point where he would be gone all tim for time to time.I love this man and my heart really hurts when I think off him.We had a wonderful relationship until the last 4 months things were diff. He claim it was me arguing too much and trying to be the boss and I claim it was him I felt like I was losing his love and I felt the change between us and it hurting so I arguing and tryied bossing him doing things to him when I thought he cheating like messing up things that meanta lot to him.I was hurting and wanted him to hurt.I know I went about it the wrong way.I just was afarid of losing him and I lost him anyway.Now I think of him all the time.I know he did me wrong and he know it to he thinks I did some ed up things to him but the way I treated and caterted his every move he should have been faithful and been around more often.When we brokeup we fought one another and he said if I hve to fight you I don't need to be with u.He said a lot of hurtful things to me and I sad a lot of things to him.We have just started talking the past week and a half ago and again something hurt me hisbaby momma who loves him to I guess called my phone from his phone which she took from him I believe she just wanted me to know she had his phone.Me and him talked about it and he told me maybe se think she's hurting him by doing that but it wasn't nothing going on.She still have his phone I'm not sure if she's going to give it back.We just decided to tell one another we miss each other hetold me he thought this was what he wanted but it wasn't.I told him I miss him and he asked me what was I going to do about that I said whatever I have to he said exactlly what I wanted to hear thank u.What should I do I want him back.He was my best friend and soul mate and I have 3 boys who loves him and to me he loves them too.He ask about them too. When we broke up I was in the process off losing my house I was renting and right after I lost my home we broke up and I moved 1hr.and a half away. Now Im staying with my father until I get my own place of course he said am I going to live with u.I think of him everyday and I feel like he should call me and when he don't Ill call him and say way didn't u call and he will say why didn't u call.I want him back and I want to know do he love me like I love him.:(

Your love for each other is not equal, as he shares his with another. Leave this guy alone, and start loving yourself, more than you love the drama he is in. You don't need that, and it will take some time, and work on your part, to get to the point you even understand how badly this relationship is hurting you, and your kids.