Well my boyfriend & I have been dating for about a year last month[July] he proposed I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him but its just that I feel like I'm too attached to him, I don't let him have any alone time and when things don't go my way I freak out and feel unsecured and jealous. lately its been worst.. What should I do.! Would it be better for us to break up.!

Hi, mag1990!

My initial response is that I would recommend that the two of you seek out a counselor who would be willing to see the both of you at the same time. I would recommend the same thing for any couple who are wanting to be married - problems or not.

I am glad that the two of you want to be married! It's a huge step in life!

Hopefully, others will also come along to address your question.

Thanks!

Congrats in getting engaged! You love him, you worry about him, and are attached to him, that's what every engaged couple should be like, but you do need to give your man some space, like a night out with his friends, or give him the house, apartment (?) to himself so he can have people over and you go out with your friends. No it wouldn't be better to break up! You love him, he loves you Why would you break up? You just need to trust you man more, has he ever done anything in which you cannot trust him anymore?

Why the title of your question is "love or lust"?

How old are both of you? When getting into marriage, there's a lot of things to consider: rapport, money, background, maturity etc

I'm not into 5+ years of engagement but a year of dating is short time. It's a thoughtful consideration though.

Hey,love or lust?

After a year with someone you should know each other pretty well,marriage is a big step and needs to be taken seriously..
Romance aside,the practical issues need to be discussed..

If your not sure if its love or lust,maybe marriage should not be on the table just yet.. and more time spent getting to know each other..

I think he will get tired of you any way after a while so, change your immature ways. Grow up a bit, and wait until you know if its love, or lust. Lust wears off, and love is what you do for each other. Its not about sex either.

Breaking your relationship won't help you at all.. if you both really love each work out for your relationship, start managing everything.. list make a list or schedule... so that you could feel less insecure..