My ex boyfriend and I was very compatible, in love, we have a lot in common and held a great friendship. He left me about three years ago. (I believe he was in denial that he was in love with me) He said that he want to experience other women and doesn't believe that I'm his soul mate. He got a girl pregnant one month after moving out of my apartment. He told me he miss me very much and want to see me but he feel very guilty seeing me because she's pregnant. About three years later I feel that he's still in my hear and that I'm still in love with him although, I met a wonderful man that I'm very compatible with, we have a lot in common and we have a wonderful friendship. I think he's the best thing that has ever happen to me. Sometime I accidentally call him my ex boyfriend's name and somethim I feel that my ex is till in my heart. I feel as if I'm still in love with my ex boyfriend. My new boyfriend want to marry me and I see a wonderful future. My ex boyfriend has contact me latly expressing that he was never in love with the mother of his 2 year old son and is still in love with me, he apologize for leaving me and has been thinking of me as someone that he want to marry. He ask me to not move too fast in the relationship that I am now in and consider getting back with him. So much time has past and I still feel him in my heart. I would think by now I would have gotten over him. I think that I'm still in love with him. I don't know what to do. Will I be able to fall in love with my current boyfriend? Or should I consider getting back with him?:confused:

How old are you?

Love is a very... contraversial... topic. My opinion is that you can love anyone you try hard enough to love, for the right reasons, and as many "anyone"s as you like.

But, as for your ex, seriously. You want to be with someone like that? I think you are just having that little "what if..." thing going on, and you can't get over it. He left you, knocked up some other girl, and now wants you back.

What if he gets you pregnant then decides he doesn't love you? You can't let this jerk do that to you. Get away from him, and if this new guy is really that good for you, stay with him.

If you can't control yourself, initiate a no contact relationship, and you'll be fine.

Well, I kind of feel bad for your current boyfriend. He's so in love with you yet he has no idea all of this is going on behind is back. Do you really think that it is fair to make him think that you love him dearly when you're still having feelings for your ex? I think you need to really think things through here and fast because your poor boyfriend is getting played.

As far as I am concerned your ex is an ex for a reason.

Your ex, might want to get back with you now, because your happy in your new relationship.

3 years is a long time. You know what, you need to figure out what your going to do. Stay or go with your new boyfriend. Going back with an ex, will just be a mistake in my opinion.

Do not let this fantasy with your ex, ruin a possible good future with your new boyfriend. Sure take it slow do not rush but not for your ex but for you.

With your ex it is a bunch of what ifs that may not work out in the long run.

With the guy you are with you know what you have.

Some times it is better to play it safe with what you got.

What happens if you go back to him and it doesn't work out then you don't have this relationship to fall back onto?

I agree with missrissa if you can't commit to your current relationship you are being unfair and deceiving your boyfriend.

Whatever went on in the past leave it there... that was then...

Instead of looking at something left behind... you should be looking at the goodness waiting in front of you...

Let that be... if it was meant to be it would have worked out then...

That's over...

Thank you, I understand. He is an ex for a reason and I should foccus on having a success in my new relationship. Having no contact with my ex does help a lot.