Daughter won't speak to me, what next?
My youngest daughter is 29 years old. She has a 2.5 year old and 4 month old> We live
4 blocks from each other, my son lives 2 blocks from me. My daughter and I talk to
Each other at least twice a day.
The problem is I am always disappointing her. No matter how hard I try, I am always
Doing something to aggravate her. She is very protective of her children. I have only
Had them overnite one time even though I have raised her and her siblings and been
A caregiver. My son on the other hand drops his kids off like they are newspapers :*) and I love it. I love all of the grandkids. When I do have the opportunity to babysit for her kids, I get instructions ( on paper lists ). It is as if I were a 10 year old babysitting for the first time.
My daughter has repeatedly expressed her feelings that I am never there for her. I
Don't get it. My husband died in 1994. She was 13. I put my whole life on hold,
Never dated, just concentrated on being both a mom and a dad for my kids. I have
A business that has taken a dive this past 18 months. I have had to work long hours
But have never turned my daughter down when she has asked for my help. I have
Rearranged, juggled my time, you name it just to accommodate her.
Recently, I asked her when I could stop by to drop off a few things. Her reply
Was "when you have time, mom". I don't bug her when my son-in-law is home.
I know that is family time. It seems like I am always on call but even that is not
Good enough.
Yesterday I told her I had to stop at my office, do some things and that I would
Stop by afterwards. I was on my way back home at 3pm when she called. "I
thought you were coming over"? I am, I said. "Well forget about it now mom,
it's too late. I'm just so tired of you always hurting my feelings". I told her
That I was sorry but I didn't know I had time restraints. She said she just
Couldn't talk to me for awhile and that she was hanging up. This morning I
Called her twice and she did not answer. She has removed me as her friend
On Facebook. I don't get it. The disrespect is what hurts the most. I am
Almost 62 years old and I am torn in so many directions. No matter what I
Do, I am always in the doghouse for something.
We are supposed to go to the zoo this week. So now what?