My wife and I have been threw a lot in our relationship. We have been married for 31/2 years. We have two children ages 1and 2. My wife and I were separated for a year when I went to Korea. While I was in Korea she cheated on me, I forgave her. Then we moved and I allowed her the try having sex with another woman. Thinking that this would restart our sexual relationship and because she has always wanting to. They got serious and I told my wife to stop. We still have no sparks between us my question is will the sparks return or is this the death of sex life with my wife. Should I look else? I have told this and she said do whatever you like. Is my marriage at the end?

I would suggest getting sexual therapy. Are you still in love with her? There is a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. If that isn't there, it can sometimes be hard to get it back. You should definitely find out what she wants from the relationship as well. It takes 2 to tango.

This is not the end, you are just going through a sticky patch-pleasse don't give up on something so important in your life, it will take commitment from both of you to get back on track and wow what a day that will be! You will both be happy and have a wonderful family! Communication is important here

You "let" her sleep with another woman? How did you think this would help your marriage?

I don't understand how people can think that bringing someone else into an already shaky relationship could help.

You need couples therapy, that's the only thing I can think of that will help.

I don't know if the spark is gone. Only you and your wife can know that.

But, given that she cheated on you (I assume with another man) and then became sexually involved with a woman, I'd suggest her sexual and emotional commitment to your relationship is rather thin.

Perhaps you need to make the choice, since she doesn't seem to care one way or another, and decide whether you want to stay or go.

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Originally Posted by bigdud

. Then we moved and i allowed her

i told my wife to stop.
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You have a lot to learn about relationships I think you have control issues besides the rest of your proublems
You CAN NOT tell your wife to do or not do ANYTHING
For right now she prefers a woman and there is nothing you can do about it
You better start thinking about those kids and forget the rest of the nonsense