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Ex girlfriend her behaviour

Hi everyone,

I had a long distance relationship for over 5 months. We've met each other on vacation! Everything where perfect ( almost perfect ) She where afraid to fly and after 3 weeks that I got back from vacation she already jumped on the plain to come visited me. So we've had visited each other a couple of times, and she even started to say: Well I can life in your country, it wouldn't be that problem. But on my last visited on her I had a little fight with her best girlfriend, she started from nothing to make me frustrated; telling lies about her and started to be annoying ( take make me up set ) so later that evening everything came out and she run away crying:P. But when I got home I directly noticed that she ( her girlfriend ) started to be annoying like; screaming trough the phone, making jokes to get her attention and more of those things. So after 4 weeks that I had seen her she broke up by message. Like that things couldn't work out and more of those crap things.

But what always kept on my mind; When I where visiting her we where talking about ex boys and girls. Her sister and she said; well when it's over? We always block and remove that person from msn! No mather what! But she didn't! I'm still in there list!

The first weeks I've chased her like hell! It was really bad from myself that I've chased her because it's not necessary, things get worst by that. Recently ( 3 weeks ago ) I had a conversation with her, and where asking like why are you avoiding me? Because it's not that nice to see a person coming online and ignores you, like that you've never met the person or something. Her answer: I'm not ignoring you! I don't have problem to talk to you! And more of such things.

Now my question to you guys/ladies !

What does she wants? Because if you really don't want to continue any contact with that other person, it's really easy to get him/she out of your life! Just block and remove from msn:S. But why isn't she doing it?
And recently I had seen pictures of her and she looked so bad! All my friends where saying it, so looked horrible! Her eyes... The really saw the difference when she where with me and after she broke up.

Friendly regards,

Strainger

By the way: Sorry for my English but I've never learned it on school!!

I doubt she knows herself what she wants.how old are you?basically I think we have to face that there are some questions that might never be answered.

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Originally Posted by Strainger

Hi everyone,

I had a long distance relationship for over 5 months. We've met each other on vacation! Everything where perfect ( almost perfect ) She where afraid to fly and after 3 weeks that i got back from vacation she already jumped on the plain to come visited me. So we've had visited each other a couple of times, and she even started to say: Well I can life in your country, it wouldn't be that problem. But on my last visited on her I had a little fight with her best girlfriend, she started from nothing to make me frustrated; telling lies about her and started to be annoying ( take make me up set ) so later that evening everything came out and she run away crying:P. But when I got home i directly noticed that she ( her girlfriend ) started to be annoying like; screaming trough the phone, making jokes to get her attention and more of those things. So after 4 weeks that i had seen her she broke up by message. Like that things couldn't work out and more of those crap things.

But what always kept on my mind; When i where visiting her we where talking about ex boys and girls. Her sister and she said; well when it's over? we always block and remove that person from msn! No mather what! But she didn't! I'm still in there list!

The first weeks i've chased her like hell! It was really bad from my self that I've chased her because it's not necessary, things get worst by that. Recently ( 3 weeks ago ) i had a conversation with her, and where asking like why are u avoiding me? because it's not that nice to see a person coming online and ignores you, like that you've never met the person or something. Her answer: I'm not ignoring you! I don't have problem to talk to you! and more of such things.

Now my question to you guys/ladies !

What does she wants? Because if u really don't want to continue any contact with that other person, it's really easy to get him/she out of your life! Just block and remove from msn:S. But why isn't she doing it?
And recently i had seen pictures of her and she looked so bad! all my friends where saying it, so looked horrible! her eyes... The really saw the difference when she where with me and after she broke up.

Friendly regards,

Strainger

By the way: Sorry for my English but I've never learned it on school!!!

Strainger
This things happen in life
As people themselves don't know what they want and why , but have paticence and just
Go with the flow ,
If you thing she is really interested in you
Then give her some space and see if see really comes back or was just checking you out
Best luck

Well in her country it's very normal ( the guys ) are acting very, very weird; aggressive and weird behaviour! Getting crazy from the smallest things. She also asked me; why don't get mad? She asked me a couple of times when we where in the relationship.

And friends of my told me, if she's not intressted in you! Then she would have blocked and removed you. We are all thinking that she broke up with me because of the girlfriend. Her girlfriend where on that moment alone ( her guy left her ) and now we've noticed, on the pictures that she's back to her guy * her best girlfriend * so maybe that she will see what she did.

And I'm already using NC for 3 weeks, only yesterday I came online ( when she where online ) but she didn't said anything.

Why is she acting so straings? The really really last time that we spoke I've asked her: Is there a problem to talk with me? No I don't have any problem to talk with you! And she said it 2 more times. It's really crazy!

Maybe she just wants to keep you as someone to talk to NOTHING more and you are trying to read too much into that.

Okay I really need some advice. I've wrote a letter like; 2 days ago! And now friends of my have seen the letter and they are like; Well u have to send her the letter on THIS FRIDAY!! I really can't get it out of my head.. And the ladies who have readt the letter they are like: Well if a guy is describing / mention so many things. Only the good things and not the bad things, I will break, not one lady said it to me but more. So what should I do?

Thanks!

What cultures are you both from??

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Originally Posted by talaniman

What cultures are you both from???

Europe. And we are above 21 years;) And no it's not a financial problem. But the difference about our country are; The Guys over there are pricks ( seriously ) so when u are normal:P they are thinking like: What's happening? He's not even getting mad?

What should I do with the E-mail?

Oh Boy.

Your trying tojudge whether she's still interested in you based on her keeping you on MSN after you had some discussion awhile back?? If every girl who didn't delete me from MSN was secretly interested in me than my world would be tops!!

Also, she looks bad!! Your speculating that she is so distraught over the break up that she has let herself go? If that were true I suspect your MSN would be flashing non-stop with messages from her... it's not. She's right as rain in not messaging, should she talk to you every time your on together? She left you correct? Seems normal to me, if anything she's being polite by keeping you on to not hurt your feelings. I'll just say about the letter, please do not send it, just don't.

Either she's interested and is going about it by pretending she's not interested or she's really not interested and has been acting like she's not interested. Pretty obvious to me friend.

Move on.

I wash my hands of this drama, and get out of this confusing situation. Why chase a female you don't even understand??

Talaniman, I'm getting a strong feeling that you trying to be the wish guy over here! Do u also have normal life besides; post 23,746 ? I don't think so. And if you want to wash you are hands of this drama, don't reply ;). I'm just asking for a advice! And to get in arguing with a person who I've never met!

Nobody wins when everyone's losing.

Let go of her so you can live healthier.

Long distance usually never work out.

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Originally Posted by Strainger

Talaniman, I'm getting a strong feeling that u trying to be the wish guy over here! Do u also have normal life besides; post 23,746 ? i don't think so. And if u want to wash u r hands of this drama, don't reply ;). I'm just asking for a advice! and to get in arguing with a person who I've never met!

Strainger I take it you thought Tal offended you, but I think its your lack of english that leads to misinterpretation.

He meant what he would do in this situation is make a clean break (which also means wash your hands)

Please don't attack him because you can't understand what he is saying.

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Originally Posted by none12345

Nobody wins when everyone's losing.

Let go of her so you can live healthier.

Long distance usually never work out.

Yeah well I've over thought things this evening. And u are saying; Long distance usually never work out. Okay that's most of time true! But I've really seen different. But I've decided to let her go, because it have to come from 2 parts, not only 1. And I'm really ( even as think people over here it's not true! ) of the games. If she really want me? And it had mention to be with each other, she will come! Otherwise no problem.

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Originally Posted by none12345

Strainger i take it you thought Tal offended you, but i think its your lack of english that leads to misinterpretation.

He meant what he would do in this situation is make a clean break (which also means wash your hands)

Please dont attack him because you can't understand what he is saying.

Yeah well I've u had read my post, I've never learned it on school. And besides I'm not familiar with those : Wash your hands;) so thanks for explanation. But if u read my other message! Then u can see what I've decided. And I really thinking/knowing it's the right one

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Originally Posted by talaniman

I wash my hands of this drama, and get out of this confusing situation. Why chase a female you don't even understand???

I'm sorry! I've got the message completely wrong! And I agree with the Washing hands :D

Well I've had send her a e-mail last Saturday in the afternoon. One week later! On the moment from now I still don't have a reply, but she where constantly on msn. A couple of times that I where online she was there. But I were to afraid to say something. I'll leave her alone because I can't stand her behaviour. Only two more questions; Why wouldn't she had reply d on my e-mail? And why if she hates me right now wouldn't she had blocked me from msn:S. And by the way; Next month it's her birthday, would it be nice to send her a message; Happy birthday?

Friendly Regards,

Strainger

Walk away, and disappear from her life. Read my signature a few times.

How do you mean? Walk away and disappear? U mean. Block and remove her from msn ( also her sister of course ) But I were think to keep offline ( totally not even starting up msn ) for a month. Because it's not necessary to me to use msn.

Thanks for the support. If somebody else has another opinion to get something, I will notice.

Friendly Regards,

Strainger