Can't get over my first love.
Hi everyone... I just had a few questions... and mainly a place to vent.
It is pretty much self explanatory based on the title... I still can't get over her. It has been over a year and a half... we started dating in July of 2007 and broke up January of 2008. Despite only dating for 6 months, she was my best friend for a year before that. We knew each other better than anyone else. This was our first shot at a real relationship, and we both loved it. It was 90% my fault that we broke up, and I take the blame for it. I didn't cheat or anything, but I was a senior in high school and I was stupid, I made some dumb decisions and acted stupidly to the point where she had had enough. Like I said I didn't cheat or anything in that area, but I just did stupid things like being inconsiderate.
Earlier this year, in January, we started to talk again. She told me that she wanted to clear the air up between us. I told her, before we started to date, that I promised her if we ever broke up that she wouldn't lose her best friend and I meant to keep that promise. We cleared A lot of things up. Come to find out her best friend, who liked me even before my ex and I dated, sabotaged and ruined a lot of things on purpose. I still take the blame for 90% of it, but the things I did we may have been able to work out. Her friend told her lies about things I never did, and told me things she never did. Needless to say we both admitted that our relationship could have gone a lot further. She told me she still wonders what would have happened if her friend never interfered, and she said she wishes we would have worked out.
Now the problem. When we were having problems, just like any guy would do, someone jumped in to the rescue, comforted her all the way until we broke up. A month later they started dating and have been ever since. I still love her... I never stopped. I want nothing more than to be with her, but because she has been dating this guy and seems very happy... I haven't said a word. She flirts with me, wishes we would have worked out and all that did was make me wish I didn't do the things I did and it pains me to know how happy I could be right now. She is my first love... I have had a lot of girlfriends since and nothing was even close to ours. No one was even close with how I could relate to her. My question is... do we ever get over our first love? I know all these people say "yes you can with time" because normally its some guy breaking a girls heart and they just don't want to let go because they liked them so much or vice versa. In my case its harder because it could have been something more, and we both wish it would have been. The only thing holding me back is her boyfriend. I am not low enough to go to his level and interfere because from what I heard they have had many problems but never broke up. Her now best friend is his sister, so I think it will take a lot for them to separate, something I don't want to wait for feeling like this. I just need some opinions on how to cope with what to do when you can't get over that one person that you actually had something with.
Thanks for all the help guys.
