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OK so me and my girlfriend have been having some problems like arguing now and then, she now wants a break but I don't know why we can't fix things while we are together.. she wants a break but still wants to talk to me everyday and she tells me she needs time and she is not ready to take me back, and I just don't get it? I love her and she really loves me back. I felt like I'm pressuring her because I always ask when she is going to take me back, its been 3 weeks.. an I told her today its better off we don't talk, till she figures put what she wants. So we're not talk. Did I do the right thing? :(

Yeah, you did the right thing.

She wants a break probably because she needs time out to figure out what she wants. Lots of possible reasons whys he would want a break, but you should be a man, and give her what she wants.

A break means you guys don't talk everyday and hang out and stuff. This is time she wanted away, so let her have it.

You did the right thing by telling her you guys shouldn't talk or meet up while on this break. Now the break officially begins.

Be strong, don't contact her, even if she contacts you, try your best not to reply, since this is a break. Keep yourself busy and see what happens in the future. Take care and good luck. Peace

Yeah you did the right thing because by pressuring her it only reinforces why she wanted the break and it gives her no time to miss you.

You did the right thing for the wrong reasons. There has been tons of stories like yours, with the girlfriend playing yo-yo. She needs time because she wants to see what is out there. I got exactly the same treatment until she found somebody for her. It's harsh but it's reality. Trust me, millions of guys have been.

Keep on doing NC and move on. She has or she will without you. Tell yourself it is over.

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OK me and my girlfriend been together for almost 9 months,
We started having sex the 5th month we where together
And we been on a break the last month but we had sex
Today I talked to her she said she donesnt want to have sex anymore
I asked her why she said she just doesn't want to.. I don't get it.
Please help me out!

It might be because the two of you are on break.

No one can answer that question but her. Don't push the matter any further.

She doesn't need a reason, if she doesn't want to have sex then she doesn't. The end.

You're on a break, why are you still having sex anyway? Maybe she's tired of being a friend with benefits.

Maybe she doesn't want to because she is getting it somewhere else. Im not trying to be pessimistic but you got to explore the possibilities.

It's pretty simple: When you are on break you aren't together, so having sex basically means nothing more than casual sex! She doesn't want to have meaningless casual sex with someone she isn't dating at the moment.

There are too many things that can go wrong whenever you have sex during a "break". " Oh you can screw me, but you don't want to be with me?" Sex doesn't magically make things right, the way they used to be. What happens if she gets pregnant? Never take out your sexual frustrations on your ex. That is the time to go solo.

Shake hands with your little friend.

At least until she decides on what you two are going to do.

Don't make matters worse by asking why.

Because you are on a "break" and she may be trying to move on. She can't do that if she is still having sex with you.

Sounds like you are too caught up on the sex thing anyway. Maybe she felt that's all you wanted from her...

Relationships are more than just sex.

Now your on a "real" break.

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Originally Posted by jmw0713

Because you are on a "break" and she may be trying to move on. She can't do that if she is still having sex with you.

Sounds like you are too caught up on the sex thing anyway. Maybe she felt thats all you wanted from her...

Relationships are more than just sex.

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I totally agree!!