hello everyone, my name is lori and I am new at this. I am looking for advice about my 2 year old son. HE Won't TALK! =( He's been stuck on the binki, which in process of breaking. Only gets it for naps and bed time, or else he screams bloody murder. He always has to have something in his mouth. If its not the binki, it's a juice cup, food, lollipop, or whatever he can manage. Hes very smart though. But to get our attention, he has this high pitgch scream, pulls our hands, points and says eh eh eh, and everyone does everything for him, but recently we've been saying, no you have to tell me what you want. Then he screams crazy loud until we do whatever it is. I am 6months pregnant, and with the screaming when he doesn't get something really gets to me, gives me a migrain and etc, so it's a big reason why I gived in now. Yes, everyone says, you just can't give in. It's not just about giving in anymore. His doctor said to put him in speech therapy, which I know won't work because he's a very shy little boy with people he doesn't know. I hope someone can help me with some positive answers. Thank you so much everyone.

I do believe one of a children's speech therapists qualities is going to be that they know how to deal with screamers and other problems that 2 year olds have so I think you should at least give them a chance and go for a consultation and an evaluation.

I agree with NOhelp, that you need to follow the Doctor's advice.

You are dealing with a toddler that has learned screaming and yelling gets results faster and easier than saying words, and it's time to figure out why.

I had my son tested by a speech therapist when he was three. He had never said a word, and although he communicated very well, like your son, I was worried that there may be a problem.

What they did was test him, and determined that he was capable of forming the sounds properly, but was simply choosing not to because he felt he didn't have to!

Sometimes it is a matter of teaching them to communicate in another way, and your doctor can advise on this as well.

Don't hesitate to put him into speech therapy it can only help, and can also help him not to be so shy with strangers. I have seen a change with my son in just a couple months.

They use play at this age. My son started at 18 months and he loved his therapist and would wait by the door for her. She was his best friend till about the age of three. Thank G-D he no longer needs help with speech. She was our angel. And when we run into her he turns to mush. We all loved her!

I was in a similar situation. He is screaming because he can't get his point across. I put my son in speech therapy when he was three and my son is extremely shy. Since then he has broken out of that shell and he is a very outgoing kid. He is still a bit on the shy side but I notice since he is communicating a lot better the tatrums are almost gone. I had feelings about speech therapy at first but know that this will only benefit your child in the long run. Also as far as the binki, had he ever bitten the nipple off? If so, what I did when my son did that to his was made him try to suck that one. They can't suck a binkin if it has a big hole in it. He tried to give it back to me to fix it and I said that's it. If you can bite it off you don't need it anymore and what do you know, he didn't ask for it after a day. When he did ask for it I gave him the one he broke and I guess he just got over it. My advice to you is don't let him miss out on an opportnity because you say he is so shy. After sitting in there with the therapist after a few sessions he will open up. And they also make it very fun and you can learn a lot from it as well. They teach kids through pictures and games and then once they learn they they move on. I was also pregnant when I was going through this. The difference is my son was a bit older and he had to break out of this before the baby came. If you don't intervene now you are going to have a harder time once the baby is born. Think about trying to care for a newborn when you have a 2 year old screaming at you all the time. Just listen to the advice your dr. gives you. They won't tell you anything wrong. Good luck with everything.

My brother did the same thing. He also had the added benefit of an older sister who liked to 'help' him tell people what he wanted. He went into speech therapy at about 2 or 3 and was talking in complete sentences without a couple months. I remember the therapist had a bunch of cars they were playing with and wouldn't let my brother play with them until he said the word.

You do need to stop with the binki and lolipops. This is only making the situation worse. He screams because he knows it will work. He would stop doing that if he wasn't getting your attention. If it doesn't work for him he will find other ways like maybe trying to talk to you. My daughter was three before she had a noticeable vocabulary.You may have to ignore the screaming and I promise it will stop.