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First time swallowing

I have NEVER ever wanted to swallow or spit. All my close friends KNOW and make jokes about how I only give head on my guys birthday or on a holiday and that I would never allow to enter my mouth. However, I'm now in a relationship with a guy I really love and want to please. He loves everything about me and proves it all the time. There's nothing he wouldn't do to me. He eats me out, licks my underarms and much more. I call him my " dirty boy". I told him that I feel bad because I want to swallow but I just don't feel that I can do it. I told him just thinking about it makes me feel like I'm going to throw up so what if I try it and actually vomit.? I would just die!

So latey he has been working on getting me to swallow and I've been doing every thing to try to talk myself into it and just go for it. I've read about it, watched videos and done visualization exercises. I knew that I would need to be heavily sedated with a drug to even try it for the first time. So he gets us some cryptno (Which I never do either. The last time I smoked pot was back in the 80's). After we smoked it I felt more than ever like I wanted to try it last night, so I did...

I read about how it would or could taste and how if it got on a certain area of your tongue it could taste bitter or sweet but I decided to go with the deeo throat method so it would just shoot down my throat and I wouldn't really taste it.

So during the act, he shot a load and at first I didn't even realize it had happened but as soon as he shot the first load and was starting with another one, I immediately threw up. Like I mean seriously vomited everywhere. I was so humiliated.

He loved the fact that I just swallowed. He was soooo into it that I don't even think he even realized at that point that I just threw up. He was saying ohhh don't stop... so I started sucking again but then stopped cause I was so embarrassed about what had just happened.

Then if that wasn't enough for him, ( you know those men who you give an inch but they want a mile) he moved on the other side of the bed and said " come here baby, come do it again." So like an idiot, trying to please him... I come try it again but this time I really threw up everywhere. I was so high... and we both were laughing and it was just sooooo embarrassing on my end. We took a shower, change dthe sheets and then went to bed.

He had to go to work today so he was already gone when I woke up but I am really so upset about it and embarrassed about it that I don't even know what to say or how to face him this afternoon. He did call me a few minutes ago and says he can't wait until tonight.

He can't wait until tonight?? What does that mean?? Now I'm really scared. He said he's so happy because now he knows I can actually do it... Again, is he not thinking about how I vomited not once but twice because of it last night?

Please help. I really want to be able to do it (without vomiting)... and I know I still have some phychological issues to work on ( I think it's because I was raised Catholic) but I don't know what to do... Has this ever happened to anyone else or is this just me?

Thanks,
Y

Woah! Big red flags Everywhere.
I understand you want to please him, and I don't know WHY this makes you sick, but he needs to stop making you do this. The throwing up thing should have been a clue for him, and it Obviously wasn't. Wow.
Tell him no. Tell him you WILL throw up- WITH or WITHOUT the drugs. (and I don't condone the drug use to make you high so you will do it)
He is thinking he will get you doing this and it seems he doesn't care much that it made you sick. I hope this isn't what you really want from a guy. Someone that makes you do something doesn't care too much for you. Really.

What is it that makes you throw up...

The thought of doing it?

Or the taste?

Either way Bronze Babe is right, he shouldn't make you do it, he shouldn't even encourage you to do it after you have told him how sick it makes you feel!

If this is the same guy with the ED, I withdraw my answer to your other question. Drugs will mess up all kinds of bodily functions.

If he would do anything for you, then he would understand your inability to do something, you're desire to not want to, and not force you to.

Your not embarrassed about swallowing his spunk but about throwing it up ?

Why does that sound backwards to me?

He is your boyfriend who are are very intimate with ,you have no reason to be embarrassed.

If you want to do it and he likes it then just spit it out.
It's a far sight better than throwing up.

If that's not good enough for him and he needs you to swallow,then he is being a selfish jerk and he doesn't deserve a BJ.

Tell him to hire a hooker.They pretend to love every little last drop.

I suggest spitting it out - I've never really been into swallowing that much either - I just spit it out into a hanky or tissue and it's absolutely fine. None of my partners have cared less about it.

Why put yourself through this? No one would force you to eat or drink something that you don't like, so why make an issue about this?

Spit don't swallow. Who knows, once you're used to the taste, you may feel like swallowing. And, if you don't, who cares. There are so many other nice things to do, focus on them!

My first question is how old are you (sorry if I missed this in your post)

Now, first of all, its normal for some girls to just not like it or get into it. I for one HATE it. I don't even GIVE oral sex to my husband EVER because the idea, the texture, and the taste al lmake me gag and sick to my stomach.

Second, this guy does NOT need to be making you do ANYTHING. It is NOT OK to let him pressure you, badger you, make you feel guilty or ANYTHING in return for sexual favors.

If he makes you do it, I suggest you vomit on his jimmy.

If he doesn't get the point after that you should dump him.

Sounds like this guy doesn't really care about you if he's pressuring you to do something your not comfortable with.

Sarah

"spunk" and "jimmy"... I love you guys!!

I remember my first time swallowing, I was kind of scared and grossed out at the same time.
If you don't want him coming in your mouth at all tell him that! Get him to com on your boobs or stomach or where ever!
If you don't mind the taste just spit it out.
Also the other ladies are right you shouldn't be doing something you don't want to be doing, especially if its making you vomit and he still wants to continue, it seems like he doesn't really care about how you are feeling and just wants 'pleasure'

I'd spit it out...

Into his mouth.

Sorry but he's an unfeeling jerk-who does not understand YOUR feelings, likes, dislikes.

I think that makes me vomit more than swallowing semen.

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Originally Posted by yvette516

Then if that wasnt enough for him, ( you know those men who you give an inch but they want a mile) he moved on the other side of the bed and said " come here baby, come do it again."

Am I the ONLY one who caught this?
Relationships aren't supposed to be all about one person, it should be a fifty-fifty partnership. If he can't try to please you as much as you try to please him (and obviously that's a lot, as you tried again after throwing up and embarrassing yourself) then he doesn't deserve you.

Get someone better, who doesn't want you to do something like this.

If he was respectfull, he would let you know its coming rather than just surprise you. I think it's the surprise factor that gets you. It certainly isn't the taste. You would get used to it after a short while. But it needs to be on your timetable. YOU have to be ready, and YOU have to not be surprised by someone who knows damn well when its coming and is fully capable of warning you.

Eventually you will be able to tell before it happens as there are physical clues you will eventually learn as you get older. Its NEVER completely by surprise even if those warnings may not be more than 5-30 seconds before hand, it gives you plenty of time to react as you wish.

Lay off the drugs. It's a fast track into becoming a single mom.

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Originally Posted by smoothy

If he was respectfull, he would let you know its coming rather than just surprise you. I think its the suprise factor that gets you. It certainly isn't the taste. You would get used to it after a short while. But it needs to be on your timetable. YOU have to be ready, and YOU have to not be suprised by someone who knows damn well when its coming and is fully capible of warning you.

Eventually you will be able to tell before it happens as there are physical clues you will eventually learn as you get older. Its NEVER completely by surprise even if those warnings may not be more than 5-30 seconds before hand, it gives you plenty of time to react as you wish.

Lay off the drugs. Its a fast track into becoming a single mom.

I dated a guy who gave no warning at all, not a sound, he didn't move, twitch, nothing... he just did it.
It was the first and last time I ever gave him a BJ.

Just say no.

If you don't like it, you don't have to do it.

Period.

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Originally Posted by shazamataz

I dated a guy who gave no warning at all, not a sound, he didn't move, twitch, nothing... he just did it.
It was the first and last time I ever gave him a BJ.

He knows its coming.. and its rude he wouldn't tell you knowing you needed a warning.

The signs I mention are subtle, not overt. A slight trembling in dice sack. A few sight contractions, but its never without some warning... He knows for sure in time to pull away or tell you. Trust me as my wife can tell its coming the instant I do... without me saying a word.

If he was respectful he would do so, the fact he won't speaks volumes.

Want to get even... if you can do it... don't swallow... pretend you did, then give him a kiss... a snowball its called.

That might cure him.

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Originally Posted by smoothy

If he was respectfull, he would let you know its coming rather than just surprise you. I think its the suprise factor that gets you. It certainly isn't the taste. You would get used to it after a short while. But it needs to be on your timetable. YOU have to be ready, and YOU have to not be suprised by someone who knows damn well when its coming and is fully capible of warning you.

Eventually you will be able to tell before it happens as there are physical clues you will eventually learn as you get older. Its NEVER completely by surprise even if those warnings may not be more than 5-30 seconds before hand, it gives you plenty of time to react as you wish.

Lay off the drugs. Its a fast track into becoming a single mom.

No ,its not surprise factor,its taste too .Ill swallow because it turns my man on but I don't like it because it taste like gooey salt. It's the gooey that gets me.I never eat anything gooey. Like eggs that are gooey OH NO !
That is no food I have ever eaten. :eek:

Ok everyone... I got your point and thank you for your input and honesty. Yes, he did want me to do it but he didn't make me do it. It was my choice to try it because I was drinking and had just smoked pot for the first and last time in about 20 years. For the person who asked my age: I'm in my mid 40's and he is 40.