Ask Me Help Desk - Ask out a girl

Ok, so I need some help... I want to ask out this amazing girl and I don't want to do it the "normal way" (boring) I want to be totally spontaneous. Would a girl like it if I lit up her room with candles then wrote a poem asking her out? I'm not sure. I just want a really different way to ask her out. I want it to be really sweet and different. Any suggestions?

I wouldn't light up her room with candles and write her a poem... that kind of leaves nowhere to go if you actually develop a relationship. The thought is cool, but something like that is usually reserved for an anniversary or special occasion, not as the first attempt to date. Some women may even be creeped out by such a thing.

Try sending her some flowers with a funny tag line in the card... you never want to overwhelm her right off the bat. Less is better for the most part.

Well you can do it that way or maybe met her at some romantic place or have an out door picnic or something that you thing that would be a great romantic place

A well thought out, interesting date would be more impressive then an over the top request for a date.

As a woman, if you lit candles and wrote me a poem to ask me out, it would strike me as clingy and potentially scare me off that you were more into me than I was into you.

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Originally Posted by Jarred_11

Ok, so I need some help... I want to ask out this amazing girl and I don't want to do it the "normal way" (boring) I want to be totally spontanious. Would a girl like it if I lit up her room with candles then wrote a poem asking her out? I'm not sure. I just want a really different way to ask her out. I want it to be really sweet and different. Any suggestions?

I'd stay away from that plan, you might make her really uncomfortable. As boring as normal may sound to you, it may be exactly what she wants. A "I'd like to take you out sometime" would suffice.

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Originally Posted by kctiger

I wouldn't light up her room with candles and write her a poem...that kind of leaves nowhere to go if you actually develop a relationship. The thought is cool, but something like that is usually reserved for an anniversary or special occasion, not as the first attempt to date. Some women may even be creeped out by such a thing.

Try sending her some flowers with a funny tag line in the card...you never want to overwhelm her right off the bat. Less is better for the most part.

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Originally Posted by Jordan Christin

Well you can do it that way or maybe met her at some romantic place or have an out door picnic or something that you thing that would be a great romantic place

What about this poem:

Whenever I think of you
It makes me feel a connection
I know this feeling is true
About this certain affection

Your name is in my heart
And it won't go away
But for some odd reason
I hope it will stay

You are the most perfection
Your beuty is beyond belief
So I'm going to ask you a question
Hoping your answer brings relief

If you would do one thing
In which I hope you agree
Will you make my life worth living a
And go out with me?

I don't think you heard appropriately.

AS A WOMAN, no poems.

Right now you are creeping me out and I am not even your interest.

Ask her out in a normal way.

No poems for the first three months or something.

She will run and that is the opposite reaction then you want.

Yea no poems because if she doesn't like you she is going to be really creeped out and try and stay away from you. But I would probably go some place and hang out and maybe before she leaves or you do, ask her out. But no poem at all.

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Originally Posted by Jordan Christin

Yea no poems because if she doesn't like you she is going to be really creeped out and try and stay away from you. But i would probably go some place and hang out and maybe before she leaves or you do, ask her out. But no poem at all.

I'm positive that she likes me and that she will say yes. Trust me, I know. We've been kind of make out buddies for like 3 months.

Keep it simple until you know her personality, as well as her body.

You don't know enough to listen. You DON'T write a freaking poem to ask a girl out... this isn't a movie.

I don't care if you have made out with her, had sex with her, changed her oil... the poem is not a good idea. I don't understand why you ask our advice when you won't listen... I am pretty sure most of us have more experience than you (I know I do) so please at least consider our words.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Keep it simple until you know her personality, as well as her body.

We have been friends for like 2 and a half years. I just want to make this official in a sweet, different, way

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Originally Posted by Jarred_11

we have been friends for like 2 and a half years. i just want to make this official in a sweet, different, way

Buy her one of those cards where you create your own message or a teddy bear with a card attached.
This is too much!
It might scare her away!
The poem is very nice but save it for down the road when you are a couple!

Hand her a single red rose and a fancy white invitation card inviting her to where ever you want to take her.

P.S.
I don't think the lighting her room up with candles is a good idea unless you have a REALLY close relationship with her as friends
As she allows you in her home when she is not there.

I would save the candles and a nice dinner for like a first year anniversary

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Originally Posted by Justwantfair

I don't think you heard appropriately.

AS A WOMAN, no poems.

Right now you are creeping me out and I am not even your interest.

Ask her out in a normal way.

No poems for the first three months or something.

She will run and that is the opposite reaction then you want.

I agree with you and I think you just actually helped me