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  • Aug 13, 2009, 12:37 PM
    popeye420
    Need anwers On my breakup
    Okay so I was with a awesome girl, our relationship started in July 08, She broke up with me at Thanksgiving 08 bacause she said she didn't feel right? As I go to return her stuff, she tells me she is pregnant! Ahhh I say this explains the way you have been acting, a week later she calls me telling me she made an apt for an abortion... I was strongly against this, it created a very heated heated fight which I thought would move us apart forever. Well the morning of her appointment I woke up and felt really different, I thought to myself damn man when you were 23 if a girl came to you and told you she was pregnant and you had to stop partying, I would have laughed... ( I am 27 and she was 22 when this took place) So I went to see how she was.. Things started up from there and by end of January we were back together. Things went well for a long time then they started to get bumpy.. We worked through most of our issues. One of the biggest was sex. After the abortion she was scared and I didn't really know how to realize that. So she no longer liked sex.. And I DO! So now July 17th I break up with her because she was acting like a self obsorbed . I didn't really want our relationship to end and neither did she... So I thought we talked and hung out and then we thought she was pregnant again... But she wasn't. She says to me damn I wish I was I thought it would fix everything between us. I replied pumpkin when its time we'll have a baby. Four days later she finalizes everything. Telling me she wants so expirience new people? This tells me you want to be able to go who ever you want? And so it was hard but I swollowed my pride and left her alone. About five days later I send her a text bacause I had just got the concert tickets I bought us, saying hey ten days until the concert. And to see if she still wanted to go. So I got no response. Three days later my phone is blowing up... But not by her by a bunch of my friends says and asking me questions, because She just showed up to a softball game with someone who I thought was a friend of mine. So now I wanted to talk to her, so I called. And no answer so I waited a bit and called again... Now she is pissing me off so I kind of did wrong and blew up her phone. Then I realized this so I stopped. I then have not talked to her in at least a week. I got paid and went to the mall and unfortunately she works at the store I shop at... But I did not see her so I went in, and made a 175$ purchase. But as I approached the register there she was. My heart sank to the bottom of my stomach again, but I walked right past her as if she wasn't there. She approached me, I just looked at her and then looked away and looked right back at her and looked away again. Did not say 1 word to her. She says " Oh really like that " And storms off. That night she is blowing up my phone asking why I came in there to her work as if it wasn't self explained watching me pull cash out and pay. And telling me I was trying to spy or stalk her! So I did not reply. It was so hard because this whole time all I have wanted is to talk to her. But I ignored every call and text last night. So this after noon she calls again. I answered it this time, and asked her WHAT? What could you have to say to me? I have nothing to say to you! Short little was said like how she thought I was stalking her... blah blah. I told her sorry didn't see you there but I was a customer nothing more and nothing less. And hung up on her. Now she has texted and called at least three or four times, asking about the tickets and who am I going with, and would I sell her one or both she wants to go with her friends?? I mean why would you call me and ask a favor of me when you treated me like that after I treated you like a fricken Queen for the last 14 months... What should I do? I still love her so much even with all the pain she has caused me but I don't want her to think that it was or is okay with what she did.. SO I ignore her do I tell her to stop calling me?
  • Aug 13, 2009, 02:33 PM
    N0help4u


    Now she is pissing me off... YOU ARE broke up!
    Quit playing games with yourself... going to the store hoping she is there and unfortunately you thought she wasn't but you went in and bought stuff.
    Stay away from the store
    IF you do happen to get into a conversation with her about the tickets tell her that you gave her a chance to reply about the tickets but NOW that she is accusing you of being a stalker you don't even want to talk to her even enough to sell her tickets.
    Block her calls, do not look for glimpses of hope that she comes back.
    NC END of story!
  • Aug 13, 2009, 02:47 PM
    popeye420

    I did not go there hoping she was there... I have worn that clothing line for years.. I have no other store unless I drive an hour away... Oh I have no license by the way so I risk arrest every time I go get cigs, so I'm not risking an hour drive on top of going into cook county on top of it!
  • Aug 13, 2009, 02:53 PM
    N0help4u

    Well you will have to be more careful that she isn't working that day.

    Other than that stay away and avoid any chances of contact with her.
    She is accusing you of stalking her just for going in the store you don't know what she may be capable of. Last thing you want is a criminal charge on you because you wanted a pair of jeans.

    Check if they have an internet store if that might be an option for now.
  • Aug 13, 2009, 02:54 PM
    popeye420

    Thank you for your advise

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