I want her back, any ideas
Okay, I dated my girlfriend for a year and three months. We just recently broke up in June. The break up was pretty bad, a lot of crying and pleading. She broke up with me because she said I needed to grow up. We moved in with each other about 9 months into the relationship things were going great. But I think she felt like she was carrying the both of us the entire relationship. There is a age difference mind you, I am 21 and she is 26. She just started dating someone less then a month after our break up. I really don't know what I should do. I realize I have growing up to do and I am doing my best to make myself a better person, not for her entirely but for myself as well. I still love her soooo much and want to give our relationship another shot but under different and less complicated circumstances. I don't think we should have moved in together so soon and it was more out of need, then want. I went against my better judgement, but she insisted on cohabitation. She is now asking me for a friendship and says that she wouldn't mind giving us another chance if she wasn't dating someone else and if I have my life together more. Now, I know it would be silly to wait for her and I have been trying to go on with my life. I can't sit back and wait for her and watch as she dates this new person that she says she "Loves". I have written her a final letter stating that I need some time to grow and get myself together, so I am putting no contact into play. I have deleted her numbers from my phone and packed away anything of sentimental value. I don't know what I am exactly asking advice for but I need some really badly at this moment.
Does this make any sense to anyone? What do you think?
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I am just wondering, hypothetically, if you guys had an ex that you just got dumped by and then almost a month later they began dating someone who is leaving for the military in less then a month and they are now committed to the person and wearing a promise ring this person bought for them. What would you guys think? This is currently the situation going on in my life. I just think it's a bit crazy since when we were dating I mentioned that I might want to go into the military and she flipped out and told me, how much she didn't want me to make that decision and said she would never date someone in the armed forces. Can anyone explain this to me.