I've been going out with this girl for quite a while now. She's an amazing girl :). BUt lately we've been having problems because she moved about an hour away. We talked about it, and decided that we were going to stay together. Acually, I asked right to her face,"Are we going to stay together?" and she said yes. Also, my firend asked her and she replied with,"Ofcourse not, I love him" I felt so happy, but not anymore. I found out that she had been lying to me the whole time. Aparently she wanted to break up with me when we went to this jesus camp for the week, and after, she still wanted to break up with me. Also, she had been flirting with this guy there, and she wanted dump me more. Top be honest, I thought she was special, someone who I could be honest with, someone who I could break my walls for. Because I've been lied to and hurt, and I've had it. So she lies about us, how she loved me, and she's been playing behind my back. I don't know what to do, one part of me wants to dump her, the other wants to love her. Please help, because I don't want to deal with this pain anymore.

You say you found out she has been lying to you.

Are you certain that whoever gave you that information is reliable?

Perhaps the person who told you these things is lying to you or has misunderstood the situation.

If you know for certain that she has been lying to you,than I don't see any alternative but to break it off.

I think everyone has the right and deserves to be heard before they are crucified.

Give her an opportunity to defend herself and see what happens from there.Don't be so quick to judge,there may be an explanation.

You better find out the truth. I think that only way to find out the truth is to confront her about it. Your trust in her is really put to the test now. Nor matter what explanation she gives you, you got to determine whether you believe what she says or not. If you don't believe, the trust is broken.

No trust = No relationship

Get the truth, and take the right actions for yourself. If she is a lying cheat, dump her.

I agree with the others
IF she is lying then she is not who you thought she was.

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Me and my ex-girlfriend were doing well, but there were conflicts. We broke up because she was moving and she just wanted to be friends. I also found out she had been flirting with this guy, and I got mad. Anyway, it's been a while now, and she's visiting in my town for a week(sleepin over a friends house). We've been hanging out since she'll be going home soon. We've sat on the couch a few times, and whenever we do she gets close, puts her head on me, and we just sit there. Anywhere we go, she tries to get close, and I just get this feeling, a feeling I use to get when we were going out. I good feeling... And she's like been annoying me a lot. Idk if that's what 15 year old girls still do to show affection, but I don't know. Idk if it's cause she still likes me, or cause she likes too :p I still like her, and it gets to me cause I have a strong feeling she has no feelings for me anymore. I don't know if I should tell her and talk, or just let my feelings go. :confused:

First of all, maybe this should be on the teen forum, you may get more applicable help there.. anyway I would say that since things didn't work out before and she lives somewhere else just leave it be for now. Maybe if she moves back you can give it another shot, but just leave it be for now.

Sometimes we still have strong feelings for someone, but we have to let them go, when things change beyond our control. (her moving)

To the first part, I would say:

You claim "she wants to break up" yet she insisted on staying with you. I would tend to believe her more than whoever said that, because she didn't break up with you.

To the second part:

It sounds like she still likes you, and never wanted to break up, but for whatever reason (since you won't reply) you did, but she still wants to be with you.

Why did you break up? Did you break up with her, or did she break up with you? Why don't you just ask her about it?

Sometimes the direct approach is the best one.

She doesn't want to break up. The source is either lying or has misinterrupted some sort of comment. She's with you isn't she? If she wanted to break up, she would have done it already. Have some faith. And if you still have doubts just tell her what your thinking. She can either reassure you its not true or confirm this is true. The only one who can tell you the truth is her... and u'll be better off for it

It will hurt. But you need to break up. All that will happen is more pain and drama. When you care about someone and it is real to you but pretty much fake to them. You need to let go. It hurts. I just went through the same thing with a lying cheating jerk. I am still hurting (almost two months laterl)... and I will hurt for much longer but less than dealling with lies