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  • Aug 11, 2009, 05:00 PM
    pavr9634
    Im 13 I haven't kiss someone
    Im 13 years old and I need help finding a boyfriend or a date but the thing is I think Im a loser because I haven't kissed someone yet and all my friends did so Im embaressed
  • Aug 11, 2009, 05:04 PM
    MissRissa

    Don't stress yourself out sweetie. You're so young and have soooooooo much time to have your first kiss. Why are you rushing it?
  • Aug 11, 2009, 05:10 PM
    XOXOlove

    You're only 13! You have a whole life ahead of you. Don't rush.
  • Aug 11, 2009, 05:37 PM
    pavr9634

    Thanks guys! I know but very young for that but I just keep thinking abaut this that I need a boyfriend I see all my friends they are going out with hot guys and I just look at myself and say why I can't be like them!
  • Aug 11, 2009, 08:15 PM
    girlsrule13

    Im 13 too. I can't wait till my first kiss. I want it to be with the guy I like a lot.
  • Aug 11, 2009, 11:41 PM
    Clough
    Hi, pavr9634!

    In my opinion, the person whom you need to be is you. All these good things will come in time, but you need to be patient and not rush things. Just because all of your friends seem to be doing things that you might not be doing, doesn't mean that you should be doing the same things that they are.

    Everyone has feelings of wanting to "belong" to certain groups. But, what groups to belong to or be associated with will depend on the individual person.

    A couple of questions for you: What sort of things do you really like to do? Also, what are the things that your really good at doing?

    Thanks!
  • Aug 12, 2009, 12:15 AM
    sweet1028

    Don't rush it girl. It will come with time, and who knows these girls at their age might not have had a good experience to remember for a first kiss. It might be something that they will want to forget when they are older and know what a real kiss is.
    I hope you will wait for your first kiss to be something very memorable. You do not have to be like your friends even though you feel like you should be to fit in. If they are good friends, they shouldn't care if you have kissed a boy or not, they should like you for you.

    If all your friends jumped off a bridge, would you? Same thing as saying they are doing it, shouldn't I? You are young with a long life ahead of you, just wait and see if I'm not telling you the truth. In the future, your friends will be jealous of you for waiting, unlike them who are embarrassed for kissing Billy Bob.
  • Aug 12, 2009, 12:43 AM
    pixiegurl

    The time will come! Good things come to those who wait :) I didn't have my first kiss until I was 17!! Just have fun being you, and if your friends are getting you down about it just tell them that your happy being you and you don't need to be like them just to be happy! :)
  • Aug 12, 2009, 08:31 AM
    michele1983
    Yes! What everyone said!! I didn't have my first kiss until I was 17 and I had many opportunities to have kissed earlier but I just wasn't comfortable...

    Someday, you'll meet someone and it will work out... BUT, don't rush it! It will definitely lose its magic if its forced!
  • Aug 12, 2009, 09:09 AM
    shazamataz

    13??

    Are you serious? I had my first kiss at 17 and nobody thought I was a loser.

    Don't be embarrassed, jeesh, kids are growing up far too quick these days, no wonder there are so many teen pregnancies!
  • Aug 12, 2009, 09:28 AM
    Justwantfair
    My first kiss was 15, no one told me they thought I was a loser.
    I sure never felt like one.
    I am glad I wasn't thirteen.
  • Aug 12, 2009, 09:29 AM
    LearningAsIGo

    You're friends are just talking smack.

    Tell them you're waiting for a perfect kiss from a great guy. You don't want to settle for any old junk. :D
  • Aug 12, 2009, 12:22 PM
    HelpinHere

    Find me one person, in today's society, that is still with their 13 crush. Until then, get over it, and you have plenty of time.

    Just as everyone says, you have plenty of time. Focus on your schoolwork. It makes life much easier.
  • Aug 12, 2009, 04:29 PM
    pavr9634

    thanks Im happy knowing a girl with 13 years old doesn't kissed yet thnaks you so much letting me now and I think or I know Im stupid what I said it was so stupid Im just 13 years old! I have a whole life to get my first kiss with the guy that I like and my friends are like crazy for going out with random guys and kissing them maybe shouldn't hang out with them but thanks guys for all the advices I feel better now knowing this!! :)
  • Aug 12, 2009, 07:01 PM
    susanx94

    I was the same around your age a little younger and when I look back at my first kiss I just want to forget it because it was with someone I fidnt feel that much for. Trust me you'll know when it's the right time, let him come to you
  • Aug 13, 2009, 12:12 AM
    Riot

    Man, I was like 17 when I had my first

    Actually, despite what people and movies say about how magical kissing is, its quite overated
    (or maybe I'm just not doing it right)
  • Aug 13, 2009, 08:22 AM
    snippy07

    My first kiss was at 16. I'm now 18 and still dating the girl I first kissed.

    My girlfriend is 16, but I wasn't her first kiss :( but that's okay.

    Don't worry about what others think about you. You're young and have plenty of time make sure when you get your first kiss you do it with the person you like a lot, because you will remember it.
  • Aug 13, 2009, 08:26 AM
    adam_89

    Ah, the first kiss. The one you will never forget.

    I was 15 when I had my first kiss and it is completely normal. I don't think I had thought much about it at your age.

    If you feel this way now, I hope you don't show up here in 2 years saying all my friends have had sex but I haven't. Just slow down and the right time will come.
  • Aug 13, 2009, 02:06 PM
    pavr9634

    Thanks guys for all the support and I will wait for my first kiss with the right guy for sure!
  • Aug 14, 2009, 10:02 AM
    N0help4u

    Losers are the girls that have a boyfriend by the time they are 13, 14 or 15 and lose their identity trying to please the boys and not thinking for themselves.
    Losers are the girls that think a guy, and even a baby, is the answer to their problems.
    Losers are the girls that end up on welfare because they just had to have the guy and the baby
    Losers are the girls that end up just getting by because they got so caught up in thinking they had to have a guy that they never planned on life goals for themselves.

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