Never thought I'd be in a situation like this...
I've been in a committed relationship for almost 8 months now. I was with one man almost 8 years and when I split with him last year, I "sowed some oats" and then began seeing my current boyfriend. I'm 27 and he's 32. Problem is, I really love him and we're talking marriage in the future, but there is another guy "Nick" that has started wanting to spend time with me and who I heard from a mutual friend of ours, that Nick is in love with me. I really like him too, but don't want to hurt my boyfriend by going out with Nick. I know the sensible thing to do would be to tell my boyfriend that I'd like to see someone else, but I'm worried that he'll hate me and won't ever want to see me again. I don't want to totally break up with him, or be Nick's "booty" buddy, but I would like to hang out with him. I think deep down I know more would come of it if I did go out with Nick. Forgive me for sounding so all over the place, but I am so confused. I know it's selfish of me to want to "hang on" to my boyfriend and also "test the waters" with Nick. I just don't know what to do. I'm scared of being alone if I do go out with Nick and it doesn't work out. I know my boyfriend would not want to go back with me after hurting him like that. If you can understand what I'm trying to say here, can anyone offer me any advice?