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  • Aug 10, 2009, 01:53 PM
    irescueu
    Daughters and mothers relationships
    Hi, Is it normally for a 27 year old single daughter to not want to talk with her mother on a regular basic? My daughter lives on her own for acouple of years now. And I still worry about her. Am I wrong to expect her to keep in contact with me at least once a week just to make sure she is OK?
  • Aug 10, 2009, 01:57 PM
    N0help4u

    Yeah it is normal for adult kids to not keep in contact with their mother.
    How about if you call her more often would that work?
  • Aug 10, 2009, 02:21 PM
    irescueu
    I would call her because she would never call me. Now she is mad at me and won't talk to me. Because I told her that I think that she need to keep in contact with me. She is single on her own and the world is a crazy place. I don't trust people out there. And she is so trustworthy. In January she met a guy on e-harmony and after two week she went away to his family cabin for the weekend with just him. And she think I am crazy because I wanted a number and where she was going. She is still going out with this guy which I did get to meet and he seem to be a nice guy. But I have only seen him 3 times. I told her that I wish we had a relationship like my best friend and her daughter. Which was I guess the wrong thing to say. That's what stated this last not talking. We started this talking once a week when she started collage to talk once a week on Sunday night.
  • Aug 10, 2009, 02:21 PM
    irescueu
    I would call her because she would never call me. Now she is mad at me and won't talk to me. Because I told her that I think that she need to keep in contact with me. She is single on her own and the world is a crazy place. I don't trust people out there. And she is so trustworthy. In January she met a guy on e-harmony and after two week she went away to his family cabin for the weekend with just him. And she think I am crazy because I wanted a number and where she was going. She is still going out with this guy which I did get to meet and he seem to be a nice guy. But I have only seen him 3 times. I told her that I wish we had a relationship like my best friend and her daughter. Which was I guess the wrong thing to say. That's what stated this last not talking. We started this talking once a week when she started collage to talk once a week on Sunday night.
  • Aug 10, 2009, 02:24 PM
    N0help4u

    My mom use to worry about me all the time.
    I moved to Texas, had four kids, a bad marriage and all these years later she isn't as worried and I don't call her much.
    Basically I don't think that your being worried should be reason for her to be mad at you.
    She should be more considerate.

    Don't push her to have time frames like once a week. Let her know that it does mean a lot when you do hear from her
  • Aug 10, 2009, 09:55 PM
    jenniepepsi

    Its normal hon. And I say this with all the love and support and respect I possibly can... but you raised her... you taught her... its time to cut the apron strings. She will come to you when she is ready.

    When I first moved out of my moms house I was 23. And I was SO SO SO ready to be away from 'mommy' and 'on my own' so I didn't talk to my mom or visit for a good long while. Now however, at almost 25, I have a loving and frequently visiting relationship with her.

    Give it time. It will all work out.

    Good luck hon

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