I think I just realized that my boyfriend is a sociopath. We have been dating for 8 months, I think I was so passionate about the relationship that I didn't see the very obvious in front of me. He doesn't use me for physical things, thankfully but emotionally drains me and is never sorry for anything. The other day when a guy was relating to me, he said that man showed empathy, I found it odd that he pointed it out like that. I found emails he wrote another girl and he is trying to act like nothing, even though I am sad, it's my fault for reading it. This is just the cherry on the pie, it gets much worse before that. He rarely listens or communicates, I think he has communication issues and could be some sort of autistic as well.

I guess my main question is, do you think it's safe to be around him. I'm afraid to tell him what I thnk, but he's trying to touch me and hold me. Right now I see past everything he is and it makes me sick, I'm with him for another week.

He is emotionally using me. Every time I try to say anything to him about his future, plans, etc. Not even with me, just in general he gets very defensive. And once he is offended by me because he is obviously ashamed he starts to bash me, saying I have mental problems and that I'm acting crazy. That I push him to the point of freaking out. That I'm like one of those girls begging to get it. He said my mother got the **** beat out of her because she begged for it just like I am. And I respond saying I'm not and says YES YOU ARE.

When I'm talking normal he sees me as yelling, even when I ask normal things like what are your plans for the day he sees that as fighting. (if he doesn't have plans) when he is threatened by me or my questions or feels less than the best, he considers me fighting.

In his eyes he deserves "special attention". He knows the difference between right and wrong for the rest of the world, but for him he's an expection.

Recently he got fired from work where he spit in the face of his manager. This was 2 days after I "pushed him" over his edge as he says and kicked two doors, knocking one into the side of my head. And barely feeling sorry after making excuses like, I busted the door cause I don't trust you with yourself. When really I ran to get away from him.

So he spat in the face of his boss, they fired him and now he wants to take them to court. He says the boss said he hit him as well. I'm not sure if he did, but he plans on going to court and denying that he spat in the face of the guy as well because he said it "didn't show on the video". What I don't get is why would you take someone to court if you spat in their face? I mean isn't that enough (not that I would ever in my life do it). He says he pushed him over his edge and it doesn't matter cause he found out (some rumur) that he was in jail for having sex with a minor.

His family life is this- he never met his father, he was raised by his mother and still to this day at age 28 sleeps in the same room as her when I'm not staying at his house. She talks to him like a baby or is complaining to him about smoking so much weed. Half the time he listens to her, and even less than that responds. There have been times when we're in the car pulling out of the drive way and I say to him, your mom is talking (she stands at the path), he has his window up and says so what. It's like he feels nothing for his mom sometimes, and then other times says I'm all she has.

She told me that she left her husband when my boyfriend was an infant because he was a womanizer, maybe he was a sociopath too.

If I ever ask him to do anything he acts like a 5 year old. Needing to be pushed and when he completes a tasks he needs me to tell him he did a good job. Other times he tries to play the role of the dad and talks to me like I'm a baby.

I'm confused, hurt, and unsure of all of this.

The truth is that I'm dealing with depression as well, not that this helps much at all and I myself have some emotional problems. I feel that he manipulates those and uses my faults against me to gain control and power.

Help.

Is he a sociopath? I say no. Does he have anger management issues? Yes. Does he have self-esteem problems? Yes.

And bells went off in my head as you described your actions and reactions. The first one was "I found emails he wrote another girl."

You need to get away from each other and find yourselves. Together you two are poison.

.. and your with him because?


Sarah

He left his email opened on my work computer. What do you expect?

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Originally Posted by hellokatiemarie

He left his email opened on my work computer. What do you expect?

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You turn your back and walk away or close it out. His email is none of your business.

What are you waiting for? It's time to break up and go no contact. This man is not good for you. End it asap. You don't need to talk to him at length about why. You aren't living together, thank goodness. He has his mother (poor woman), so he'll be fine. You have no kids. You are so lucky! Just tell him you have decided to break up and that he makes you unhappy. You don't owe him any more explanation than that.

He's a mess. Why he's a mess and to what degree he's a mess doesn't matter.

You need to stop thinking about him and think about what you can do for yourself to restart your life and get out of the funk this relationship has put you in. Start something new. Did you ever want to take a class or start a sport? This is the time. Pick something that will put you in contact with cheerful people.

Have some fun!

There should be a website where you can publish stories with names and faces... I wish some would've warned me about the guy I run into... critical human being, bad - very bad. This suckssssss... but nothing is forever. Life is too good to let some idiot ruin you.

This might be your chance to make millions. Charge a small amount to post a photo and story. Make it a "Most Wanted" type of thing, although it would be more of a "Least Wanted" and interactive.

You may be the next Mark Zuckerberg (Facebook creator).

I stumbled upon this page while looking for information regarding sociopath behavior for a friend of mine who is in an abusive relationship and the more I read the more I realized how problematic my relationship is. We don't live together anymore but I'm still under his spell so to speak. Things that really triggered a response out of me while reading were things like an intense stare, possible autism, irresponsible, high testosterone (high sex drive, random fights on the street), no empathy, low self esteem and never can talk about the future. I will research some more and get back.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antisocial_personality_disorder

What a relief to learn about sociopaths! I was dating one for the past 10 months and feel such a relief it is over. He is a classic case and viewing myself as a smart independent woman, feel totally duped by this guy. My "gut" told me something was off from the beginning. Ladies, if you're reading this and something doesn't feel right, listen to your intuition and get out of it. I tried breaking up with this guy3 other times and he always talked me out of it. Truth his, he was loser, didn't work the whole time we dated and swindled people on eBay and with other schemes to make money; promising he would look for a job soon. I caught him emailing and texting other girls and his response was "they mean nothing" and then he would say he didn't do anything wrong. He came home with red marks on his back and tried to convince me that I made those marks when we had sex 4 days before. If I continued to pry and. Question he would start to cry. I fell for this pity routine. Ladies if you even "think" you're dating a sociopath run run run away and now. Don't wait a second. They are mentally twisted and will have you convinced that you are the one with the problem. They will never change and will use you and then move on to their next victim. Save yourself.