Well I'm turning 16 in 3 days, and my girlfriend is 15, and were suppose to hang out on my birthday. We've been together for almost 2 years, and within another week is our 2 years anniversary. Last night we got into this huge fight, the biggest we've had yet. We do fight a lot but last night was bad, it started as choosing a movie together but then 1 of us didn't want to watch what the other wanted, and she got sad and quiet. When I asked what's wrong she wouldn't tell me. Then we started arguing about it, then we got into pointing out each others flaws, and relating them to the relationship. She had then started yelling at me because I had talked to one of my ex's, which I know I shouldn't have because she hates her. But I had only talked to her for advice on how to make my girlfriend more happy, since she's more experience with guys and know what they can do. So yea my girlfriend said I went behind her back when I talked to the ex, and she was extremely mad and didn't want to talk to me, and just wanted to go, I didn't want to keep her back so I let her go, and when she was leaving I said that I love her, but she didn't say it back for the first time. I truly do love her and I know she does to, I just don't know how to fix this, because right now she doesn't want anything to do with me and I'm scared I might lose her, and were really not even that experience with relationships and how to deal with fights since were both still young, I really need help on fixing this.

You are young and I remember those days!why don't you just leave it for a day or so and then try talking to her again?good luck.

Oh no no no!Never talk to your ex if your current girlfriend doesn't like her!She feels hurt and betrayed now.It doesn't matter why you were talking to her in fact she's prob not going to see it like that,shell see it like you onlywere talking to your ex about her.Which is a big no no!Yere only young so I bet she's missing you right now.Dont worry,I am almost certain she will make contact and everything will be fine!

Women are fairly irrational when it comes to this stuff no matter the age. Just give her time to cool her jets. No big worries man.

Women are fairly irrational?excuse me?

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Originally Posted by Holly23

women are fairly irrational?excuse me?

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Did I stutter?

I assume you took offense to this, but trying to deny it would be a pretty good argument, so lets not go off topic here. And yes, what I said is MY truth... no offense intended.

I have to agree with KC.

Sometimes women are just plain crazy. Yes, I am a woman, and I can admit it.

Women, in my opinion, have a bipolar switch that gets hit at times. When that happens, you need to take a break and let them cool off. It's hard but sometimes time is the best thing

Women have a tendency to at times let emotion override... well, everything.

When this happens, trying to rationalize with them does not work. So don't try it. She'll think you're trying to call her stupid, or something else you weren't meaning to say.

So as the other posters said, it's really just best to let her cool down. Sometimes it can take a couple of day, but you'll just end up fighting more if you don't give her that.

She'll likely get over it and everything will be fine.

How much days do u think it would take for her to calm down? Because I'm suppose to see her in 3 days on my birthday, and I'm not sure if she would want to see me...

Having recently left I man whose idea of discussing problems was to shout then put the phone down some of the previous posts made me smile

Let her cool off for as long as it takes, my young friend. Then try to calmly talk your problems out, and stay away from exes. Talk to your girl, and not someone else to see how she feels, so you can deal with those feelings.

Knowing when to back off, and shut up, are valuable tools for guys (and girls). It wouldn't hurt watching the movie she likes either.

I agree with just about everything said so far.

I have to say, if you "fight a lot" after two years, I would say things aren't working.
I'm not trying to attack you, but why are you still together?

Ahh, My boyfriend did the same thing. Except we're a few years older. (We are together today and have been for 3 years.) And I did the same thing too. Holly23 has a good point. When you talk to an ex that your current girlfriend hates, she feels betrayed and disrespected. It's a horrible feeling. It makes her feel like you don't care about her opinion, regardless of why you are talking to her.. . Just write her a letter.. . Tell you how you feel about her. Make an effort. Just don't push her buttons, she will get agitated. Respect her space and let her know that you are there for her and love her and never meant to intentionally hurt her, you were trying to make me happy. I hope everything works out for you :)

Not me happy. Her happy. Whoops :)