How to deal w/ close friend shunning you
A friend of mine started to shun me - even though I'm not exactly sure why.
Last week, I may have made a joking comment about her friend that was offensive, and I thought so, and I apologized immediately.
Then she sent me two emails just talking about regular stuff - of which I didn't respond to, not because they were from her, but because I was extremely busy being immersed in studies and research, etc. Plus she sent me those emails late at night and said, "Oh, I'm going to sleep now" - which is more of a reason why I didn't respond.
Anyway, we usually talk during the end of the week and weekends, and although she was available, lets say - she refused to speak to me.
So I'm wondering, were my actions hurtful in not responding to her emails and the bad joke about her friend? I know it sounds petty, but she also went above and beyond in showing me that she's shunning me - I won't post the long-winded details, but she did.
So I'm wondering, how to treat this situation - we've been close friends for years. She has repeatedly stated that she doesn't want me isolated from her. So I wonder about this contradicting behavior.
When people shun you, does that mean that they're hurt? Or that they're trying to keep themselves esteem? Perhaps she no longer wants me in her circle, not sure. I just thought that she'd explain what's bothering her, instead of just taking the shun road.