Ask Me Help Desk - I think this man is a stalker

For the past few months I have walked passed this mans house to go to my nearest corner convenient store and whenever I walk past this man in his late 30s early 40s comes out and hugs me. I have never talked to this guy in my life and he just comes up and hugs me and such and I don't really like it. This one day I was walking to school by myself and he came up behind me and said "Hey I knew it was u i noticed your backside and I knew it looked familiar" and then he followed me to school and offered to buy me a drink or something and I told him no.. So he went in the store and I ran away from him.. He knows everything about me including my name address even my phone number and he even sometimes just hugs my best friend who lives right on his corner and a few people have told me he is a pedofile and some people including me and my parents thinks he has mental issues.. I could be walking past his house with my mother and 2 sisters and this guy doesn't come out and touch me only when I'm by myself he comes out.. If I'm walking past with my boyfriend or my sister or my best friend he doesn't come out.. Idk what I should do I don't know how he knows everything about me I have never talked to him nor has anyone in my family and my friends don't even know this guy he has no friends or family.and possibly he may have mental issues.. But I don't know what I can do to avoid him I've tried everything.I'll even walk past his house and he comes out and calls me and he even dodges cars just to run over to me and hug me and he's always trying to touch me and such like he plays with why hair, calls me beautiful and tis kind of creepy and I think he might be a stalker.. Some people don't think he's a pedofile because he babysits little kids but the father of the little kids he babysits is one of my friends brothers and he thinks he's a pedofile and after hearing rumors about him and the stuff he's said to me he won't let him babysit his kids anymore.. >There was even this one time this guy came to my house and called me until I came out and he wouldn't leave me alone because he wanted to see if I was OK because he hadntt seen me in a few days and I thought it was creepy because at the same time I was dressing in my room right by my window and I didn't know he was out there and I don't know if he saw me and I didn't mean to dress in front of my window I didn't think anyone could c me I was looking for a shirt in my dresser and I had nothing but a bra and pants on and I don't know if he saw me... There was this one time he saw me after me being sick for a few weeks where he said "My u look beautiful if only you were two years older you would be legal and the things i would do to you" I'm kind of cared by this guy and everyone tells me there is nothing the cops can do if I call them and he has mental issues because this one time this lady worked at the convenient store and supposedly said he was a pedofile so he threatened to kill her and threw a rock at the window of the store at the lady and broke it and the cops didn't arrest him or anything... idk what I should do I need some advice I haven't tried to call the cops and I don't know if I should or anything or should I wait until he actually does something.. Im like afraid to go out of my house because he's wherever I am at thee only places he's not at is when I'm there is when I'm with someone, or at my boyfriends house or at my friends house and its creepy this guy I don't know what to do and it scares me because I'm afraid he might try to do something to me someone please help me. I really think this man is a stalker and I don't know what to do to keep him away from me Ive read some things and if someone has mental issues there is nthing that can be done and you can't even put a restraining order out on them and I'm really scared for my life I don't want to get raped, or kidnapped or killed or anything.. I have talked to my parents about this guy and I have even cried to them about this and they tell me there is nothing we can do and they tellme just ignore hima and when I do he just comes after me and he hugs me and stuff evne when I push him away... During the winter I would take the bus to schoo because my school was two miles away from my house and that was the only transportation I had then and he lived right near a bus stop so he would come down to my bus stop and wait for the bus and he would sit next to me on the bus and bunch of old people know him and stuff and he's kind of nice but I just am afraid and its creepy I don't see why he can't wait by his bus stop his bus stop is closer than mine he walks an extra block just to come to my corner just to stalk me.. My mom says maybe he's not a stalker but my friends do and I do after they heard this same story and it happens like 6-7 times a week.. Like if I don't come out of my house around his way at all he will walk down my street just to try and look in my bedroom window.. Idk how he knows all of this information about me like which bedroom is mine and everything my mother doesn't know him and she won't talk to him nor will my younger sister who is a year younger than myself he doestn talk to them he torments me and just tells my baby sister to tell me hi and such and I don't like it and its creepy and there is nothing gwe can do and he's not on any website I've looked.. and I'm home with my sisters most of the time because I have a sickly ill father and he's in and out of the hospital and he goes to dialysis 3 days of the week and he's blind and my mother works a crazy schedule so she's in and out of the house all hours of the day and night because she's an asistant manager and this guy knows where my mother works and he's never been o n that side of town and my mother won't talk to him or even say hi to him and he asks my how come my mother and sister don't talk to him and I don't want to be mean and say cause they don't like you so I make up some lame excuse and say they don't talk to people they don't know and he called my mother stuck up the one time cause she wouldn't talk to him he said she just walks passed with her nose in the air and my mother is far from ignorent.. and my mom might end up kicking this guys or something and I know she will do it to whenever something happens I tell my boyfriend and he gets mad saying he will beat the guy up and I don't want him or my mothe or anyone else getting involveed because if this guy gets locked up I don't want him to come after me when he gets out and I don't want to have to go through all these court things or anything because he appears to be one of those people who lie about everything and I don't know what I should do and he's just plain creepy I don't know how but he had a girlfriend and she left him and he just hasn't left me alone and he talks to me as if I'm an adult and its just plain creepy that he knows everything about me and I don't know how no one I know knows who he is because I ask them all and tell them about him and I don't talk to that many people either.. its just weird and it makes no sense of all people why me.. I mean my best friend is very slutty and I'm more of a christian girl and he comes after me but not her I just can't put two and two together something isn't right I try to avoid him wherever I'm at but he runs after me and stuff and he even dodges cars just to get to me and a bunch of people say he's a pedofile and/or a rapist and I think so too and I don't want anything to happen to me

He is creepy and you need to get with your friends that he does this to and any witnesses and report him.
If he is on the child pedophile site they will do something. If he isn't they need to do something.

I will look for a site you can check to see if he is on there

Have you discussed this guy with your parents? I don't care if he has 20 kids of his own and/or babysits. The guy is a pervert. He is definitely stalking you. Your parents need to take you down to the nearest police station and complain about this guy's inappropriate behavior. I shudder to think what his next move on you is going to be. He needs to be stopped now, before he hurts you or rapes you.

Here is the link BUT even if he isn't on here does not mean he is not a pedophile

He would just be an UNcaught one

childsearch.us: Pedophiles

Thank you for that link but idt he will be on there I mean I don't know if anyone else has experienced this from this guy but he is very creepy

I don't even know his name or anything I just know where he lives annd looks like and he's a pretty big dinky looking man

You he was not on that website I found out from my neighbor what his first name is and she thinks he has mentalk problems he goes on her porch and talks to her sometimes

You said in your post that your mother is aware of this, why hasn't she done anything about it?

Me and my sister were going to set him up and see if we can get him in the act but were not sure how to do this.. He doesn't come out if somenoe is with me and he knows who everyone is that I talk to which is really only my best friend and boyfriend

My mother doesn't know what to do and I don't like bothering her with this stuff to beg her to do something because she's always stressed out like I said she works hectic schedules and my father is very sick and she has enough on her plate

Thank you all for taking the time to read my posts if you have anymore advice it will be very appreciated

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Originally Posted by angelbaby93

my mother doesnt kno what to do and i dont like bothering her with this stuff to beg her to do something because shes always stressed out like i said she works hectic schedules and my father is very sick and she has enough on her plate

I thought you lived with your mother and uncle. How does your fathers sickness affect her?

Also, she's your mom, it's her job to keep you safe, no matter how hard she's working or how stressed she is.

Well he basically my uncle is my father figure since my real dad walked out on us and his brother was always there helping out with us and him and my mother are engaged it's a long story about that.. so I call him my father sometimes and I know its her job and she does but the only thing she can think of is to kick the guys and we've talked to counselors and they told us that if he has mental problems he won't stop and we can't do anything not even restraining orders against him

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Originally Posted by angelbaby93

well he basically my uncle is my father figure since my real dad walked out on us and his brother was always there helping out with us and him and my mother are engaged its a long story about that..so i call him my father sometimes and i know its her job and she does but the only thing she can think of is to kick the guys and weve talked to counselors and they told us that if he has mental problems he wont stop and we can't do anything not even restraining orders against him

What have the police said?

If you mentioned it in your original post, sorry, I couldn't get through the whole thing, it was one long run on sentence and my eyes don't work that way.

Ask them what happens if he rapes you or something because nothing could be done.

I'm srry we haven't told the police there was a police officer who I have asked and they said the same thing if he has mental issues nothing can be done and I said what if something happens to me then they said that's when they will take control until then nothing can be done

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im srry we havent told the police there was a police officer who i have asked and they said the same thing if he has mental issues nothing can be done and i said what if something happens to me then they said thats when they will take control until then nothing can be done

I don't believe that. Nor do I believe that nothing can be done if he has mental issues, that's bull.

Mental issues or not, he has to live by the law and the law states that he cannot have unwanted physical contact with anyone, much less a minor!

If he's touching you, making sexual comments to you, then he is not abiding by the law.

If your mother doesn't go to the police and tell them what's going on, in my opinion, that's child neglect.

Waiting until he actually rapes you, that's not an option. You have the right to walk to school without being sexually harassed. I'd really like to talk to the police man and consellor that gave you this advice, why they are employed I don't know.

If your mother won't take you to the police to report this, then call CPS, she doesn't deserve to be your mother!

I don't care how busy or stressed she is, she has to protect you, that's her job and the police have to do something because that's their job.

If your friends have witnessed this and been exposed to this, there are your witnesses. You also mentioned a neighbor of his that is uncomfortable with his behavior.

This won't end by itself.

Unfortunately the way the laws are written they really can't do anything until there is a crime committed and often things like this aren't considered a crime for some reason.

I would keep pushing it though until something is done.

Sometimes I don't even tell my mother this because she knows it happens I choose not to bother her with it and no she is not neglecting me at all just because she hasn't called the police she was the one who was talking to that police officer in front of me there was a fight one night and some police came and my mom went up to one and started telling him my situation and then since then she asks other people whom she works with if they know anything that can be done

I know this won't end I been in counseling for almost 8 1/2 months for this because I've tried to commit suicide so the guy would leave me alone and everyone tells me that nothing can be done until he does something I don't get this