Ask Me Help Desk - Is this the end?

I was always told that I'm unemotional and that I tend to hind how I feel, but I can't help that. There's a reason why I'm that way. I'm an observant person and I've observed the pain others have indured due to heartaches and I never wanted to feel that way, so I keep how I feel to myself. For the first time I expressed my true feelings to the women I love, and I don't think she believed me.

We've dated on and off for about 6 years, but never had a stable relationship. I'd say much of that was my fault because of things I've said and done. I felt much of it was for the best because of our situation. We began talking in high school, me a senior and she a freshman, so the age difference played a big part. It wasn't what I thought, but what our families thought, being that she's been one of my sisters closes friends for years. I was afraid of their reaction, so I said some things to her that I didn't mean, just to keep things at ease with them. I didn't know what else to do because she wanted a relationship "now", and I didn't think "then" was the right time.

Anyway, I recently told her how I've felt for a while, and she didn't believe me. She said that I would've made it known to her a long time ago if I truly felt that way. I tried to explain everything to her, but I may have waited a little to late. She's leaving for the Air Force, and she told me that she doesn't want to be in a relationship. She wants to do her thing for awhile and not worry about us.

Is she gone? Will she return? I really love this girl, and I'm not sure what to do! I know I have to let her go, but I don't want her to be gone forever..

Wow this sounds like what me and my boyfriend are going through cause every time he tells me he loves me I don't believe it cause he's not a very expressive person either, this is going to be hard for her to believe, she may need her space, meanwhile you need to rethink to yourself how to prove your love for her, spend more time with her perhaps? Call her to see how she's doing sometimes? Let her know you are thinking of her, women like to know that you have crossed their mind throughout the day. Do you do any of this with consistency?

I'll admit, at first I wasn't doing what I was suppose to. I was young and I wanted to do what most men want to do at a young age.. Have fun! Although, my heart was with her; I still didn't follow up the way I should have, but I made it a note not to date anyone else. Recently, I've been doing everything that I didn't do before, but I don't think it was enough.

I think because of the things I put her through, she may have lost a lot of feelings for me. She feels like all of a sudden I have these deep feeling for her, and she doesn't think they were there before.

My feelings for her were always there. I just didn't know how to express them. I was afraid, so I kept everything inside. There were times when I would give her hints, but I don't think she got it. I still scared to tell her, so I put it in a 6 page letter.

She says that she loves me, but right now she's not ready. She said she wants to experience life, and see what the world has to offer. I know that I have to give her the time she wants because she did the same for me.

She's been avoiding me as of late, so I don't know what's going on. She'll be leaving for the Air Force soon, and I'm just wondering if this is it! If she leaves, will she ever come back..

You don't really have a choice right now, buddy.

She said she doesn't want to be in a relationship. And perhaps she doesn't believe you because it was never a stable relationship between you two in the first place.

And honestly, if it took my boyfriend SIX YEARS to let me know how he truly felt about me, I'd be skeptical too. Really skeptical.

So now, enjoy your life while she enjoys hers. She might never come back, but do you really expect her to? If she comes back, be sure you have COMMUNICATION as a KEY PART of your relationship.

A relationship with no communication... well, you might as well be acquaintances.

Love, in my opinion, is all a matter of timing. And the timing can be wrong. That doesn't mean that you can't rewind this clock Travelingmind. Only you know your own heart and how much you want this.

Love isn't always easy either. If you are sincere and are now devoted to this woman then 'fight' for her. Show her now that you genuine, there are no more pretenses and that you will wait for her. Time in this way can possibly be an ally.

I don't usually post videos as a response to make my point but this is one that I like and I think it says a lot. I have always been an optimist.

Good luck to the two of you.

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We've dated on and off for about 6 years,

Now its off, AGAIN

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but never had a stable relationship

What does that tell you. Let her go.

Hi travel,

I think you can draw comfort from the fact that at least you did tell her, you also wrote her a 6 page letter, which is always good, it means when she is having those quiet moments away from home,feeling a little homesick she can always pull out your letter and read it again and again,perhaps eventually something will hit home and she will start to understand why you waited so long.

In the mean time you must live your life .