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  • Aug 5, 2009, 12:13 PM
    Diamond88
    Why Cant He Stop Cheating?
    Okay Me And My Boyfriend Have Been Together 3-4 Months And Hes Always Chatn Online And Have A lot Of Females Calling Hes Phone.


    When I Come Ova To His House We Always Fuss About The Girls, Then He Tell Ne How Much He Loves Me And Tries To Give Me What Eva I Want. Last Night I Told Him If He Don't Stop Ima Leave Him And He Promise Not To Do It Again For The 4th Time.


    CAn I Get Some Advice On What To Do Please?
  • Aug 5, 2009, 12:19 PM
    Justwantfair
    Well you stop threatening and you leave him. If it's always just a threat then he has nothing to worry about because you aren't leaving.

    You are young, if he would like multiple 'girl friends' then he should have multiple 'girl friends' and not tie himself down with one person.

    Then you should focus on schoolwork because in order to become an independent adult and enter into the work force, you will need to have skills and right now your typing skills are completely inadequate. Please refrain from capatalizing every letter in the sentence. We also do not allow text speech of any sort. So please remember Night is night and Ova is over, so on and so forth.
    Thank you.
  • Aug 5, 2009, 12:23 PM
    spitvenom

    You have only been together 3-4 months and you have had this talk 4 times. What makes you think he this is the time he is going to stop. Cut your losses now and go have some fun!!
  • Aug 5, 2009, 12:28 PM
    kctiger

    You are enabling him to use you... if I had someone as naïve as you I probably wouldn't stop having fun either. Grow some girl balls and leave him. He is a player and likely will not change his ways. Thus the question becomes "Why won't he stop cheating?" The answer is because he constantly gets away with it.
  • Aug 5, 2009, 12:29 PM
    Diamond88
    Thanks for the advice, but I'm well educated.
    I text a lot, no need for your correction on my
    Writing.

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Justwantfair View Post
    Well you stop threatening and you leave him. If it's always just a threat then he has nothing to worry about because you aren't leaving.

    You are young, if he would like multiple 'girl friends' then he should have multiple 'girl friends' and not tie himself down with one person.

    Then you should focus on schoolwork because in order to become an independant adult and enter into the work force, you will need to have skills and right now your typing skills are completely inadequate. Please refrain from capatalizing every letter in the sentence. We also do not allow text speech of any sort. So please remember Nite is night and Ova is over, so on and so forth.
    Thank you.

  • Aug 5, 2009, 12:43 PM
    nikosmom

    This is a brand new relationship so you should still be in the "honeymoon" phase. The fact that you've had this conversation 4 times already shows how little he's willing to put into this. Normally people start by going over and beyond and then begin to slack off over time. The fact that he's starting this way says that it will only get worse.

    People do what they're allowed to get away with. He has no incentive to change because he knows you are gullible and will forgive him.
  • Aug 5, 2009, 02:12 PM
    talaniman

    Want him to stop cheating? Dump him, then he can't cheat on YOU.
  • Aug 5, 2009, 02:15 PM
    jenniepepsi

    He can't stop cheating because you are letting him. Walk out. Dump his sorry butt and move on.
  • Feb 4, 2010, 05:20 PM
    unsurenow

    Wow sounds so failiar to my situation, they don't completely stop after the 4th time, if he didn't stop the first time around then you should walk, it leads to them cheating, you are seting it up that way by allowing him the first step in that direction, I learned the hard way, first the texts , emails , then the gawking, then the bragging, on and on, You decide what you are willing to put up with it and don't keep lowering the bar.

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