My name is emily and I have two really good friends. We hang out often, but they are always together. I never get to spend time with one at a time like they do. And now they are going on a camping trip and going places without me. They didn't even tell me about it. I have told them how I felt but I don't think they are going to do anyhting about it. I asked the one girl why she didn't invite me to the place that she invited the other girl, and she said her mom said that she could only invite one person and that our friend was standing right there at the time. I was there when she said that too. :(. It just really hurts my feelings that they are always leaving me out, when I was the one that introduced them to each other. Now I am regretting introducing them. Anyone have any advice? :)

Why don't YOU plan something to do?

Take them to the movies.
Take friend 1 to the mall, take friend 2 to lunch. Maybe one or the other (or both) likes going in pairs, but maybe not. You start involving them with you, and they'll get the message and involve you with them. :)

And don't worry, just because they may be more best friends with each other, it doesn't mean they forgot about you.

BTW: How old are you? It sounds like you are still in your teens, and you could post these types of questions in the teens board.

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Originally Posted by HelpinHere

Why don't YOU plan something to do?

Take them to the movies.
Take friend 1 to the mall, take friend 2 to lunch. Maybe one or the other (or both) likes going in pairs, but maybe not. You start involving them with you, and they'll get the message and involve you with them. :)

And don't worry, just because they may be more best friends with eachother, it doesn't mean they forgot about you.

BTW: How old are you? It sounds like you are still in your teens, and you could post these types of questions in the teens board.

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Thanks. But the problem is, is whenever I try to do that, they are already with the other and end up saying, "I would but i don't wanna ditch friend 1/2". I always give in and say OK. And the thing is, is that one girl isn't paticularly nice to friend 2. like, she will talk about her behind her back and stuff. Sometimes I think she uses her for her brothers friends, but I'm not going to say anything.
Lol, I didn't know there was a teen section. I'll post there next time.

Well, I still say you should try. Don't be all like, spur of the moment, plan in advance. Or invite both of them. Try calling one ahead of time to see when friend 1/2 isn't going to be around, so you can just be with friend 2/1. (wow, these numbers are just getting confusing, :P)

If friend 1 isn't being that great to friend 2, then she really isn't that good of a friend. I'm not saying you should do anything about it. It would just make you look bad, petty, trying to break them apart. However, mentioning "Hey [friend 2], do you notice [friend 1] is hanging around [brother]'s friends a lot?" or something. Don't say everything you suspect, or even that you suspect anything, but casually mentioning it shouldn't hurt.

Any more details you could provide would let me (and any others who show up) help you more, if you wish.

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Thanks.
lol, i didnt know there was a teen section. i'll post there next time.

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Good, that shows you plan on sticking around! It's always good to have new members here!

It might be an idea to try to make some new friends as these two don't seem to be treating you very well.

It might be an idea to try to make some new friends as these two don't seem to be treating you very well.

Emily,
Your going to have a lot of friends, so don't worry about this. Give both your friends a lot of time and be there if they want you or ask you. Meanwhile make more friends. Join a group activity that you like and know more people.

Well I am going through the same thing at school and there are 2 people in this my best friend Rhianna and Alexia.Well Alexia said I follow Rhianna like a lost puppy and really making me mad so I called Rhianna and told her everything and she said OK well I will call Aexia and hung up and this just happened to me and I don't know what too do either so I thing you should do what I am doing I will IGNORE them and then there other friends will ask what's wrong and it will be passed across school and after a while it will get to them and they will really see how you feel and they will come around it is normal if it take 3 or so days so I hope it work I am sorry if it doesn't so try it.

I went through this too, except there were four of us. I introduced all three friends to each other, and honestly they didn't really like each other at first, but we all started hanging out. Three of us were really into surfing and one friend wasn't. So when we didn't invite her to come along because we knew she wasn't into it she would get really mad. Eventually I started to split my time between two of my friends and her so she wouldn't feel left out and it started to separate the group. To this day she is not really close to the other two girls even though I am still friends with all of them. Sometimes people just don't click the same way and you shouldn't take it personal even though I know its difficult right now, you can't force connections with people. Friendships will grow and change through out time. I have friends that I was really close to and then didn't speak to for years and now we are friends again, that is just life things are constantly changing.

Just try to be more friendly to them and when they say they are going somewhere or going to do something just say can I come or can I join you. If they say no then they are not really mean`t to be your friends.