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  • Aug 3, 2009, 05:27 PM
    MulhollandHeart
    We dated & she went on vacation for 4 days and met somebody there.
    I met this really great girl about a month and a half ago.We started dating,and everything got really great... we talked to each other every day,she communitcated things to me that she had never communicated to anyone else before.. genuinely dug each other and very very comfortable with each other,made plans to do certain things,etc.(also,as a side note,we are both 40 yrs. Of age.. not high school kids)... she went on vacation to CO. to visit some friends that she always does at this time of the year... We made dinner the night before she left,I took her to the airport early in the morning and she gave me her car to watch for the 4 days.. asked me to pick her up the day she returned. She sent me pictures and textes for the first two days she was there... then they stopped... when she returned,she seemed distant... a week went by,we went out several times everything seemed fine... romance,etc... then the last night,she told me that she had met somebody in CO. and that they were the perfect person... she was with them for 2-3 days and hooked up with them over that weekend... she said that they have talked to each other every day since she got back(which is ,like, a week) and that they plan on going to meet in New Orleans and be together... This all sounds crazy... I don't want to lose her,because what we had built so far was the best,even according to her... what do I do?
  • Aug 3, 2009, 10:25 PM
    I wish
    The only thing you can do is tell her how you feel and see if she feels the same way. But it sounds like she already made up her mind. But if she changes her mind, she will let you know.

    As for you, start moving on. If she comes back to you, great! If she doesn't, at least you'll be in a better position to recover from this experience.
  • Aug 3, 2009, 10:43 PM
    HelpinHere

    What do you mean by "romance"?
    Perhaps you are viewing her as more than a friend, and she is just viewing you as a friend.

    Have you tried talking to her about that? She may not know you want her as more than friends.
  • Aug 3, 2009, 10:50 PM
    BlackVY

    I don't think there is much you can do here.

    She seems to have found someone else she wants to be with, or so she thinks, so you need to let her go. If she is right, then she will be happy, and you should be happy for her, if you care about her. If she is wrong, and she is making a mistake, this is her mistake to make.

    Sorry about this, and it's a bad situation to be in, but you never know what life is going to throw at you.

    Good luck and all the best
  • Aug 5, 2009, 12:05 PM
    CrazyThumper
    Mul- this is what you do.

    "Hi "Person you like",

    I don't think we should talk anymore, for obvious reasons. I had a blast, best of luck with your new perfect person. Take care.

    "Click".

    Keep in mind the old saying.. "Never be someone's option when you make them your priority". It has a few twists to it.. but you get the picture.
    Live, Learn, Move on bro.. I'm sure she was having fun with you, and getting to know you, etc.. But as soon as another fish swam along, she was gone. That 'catch' is not one worth keeping.. throw her back and invest in someone else..

    Thumper.

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