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  • Aug 3, 2009, 04:14 PM
    stts
    Getting mixed signals in my relationship
    My potential wife went to Costa Rica for 10 days with a girlfriend of hers. She sent me 2 emails in 10 days saying she's too busy to write but she misses and love me so much. She took an emergency cell phone in case she wanted to call me. Not once did she call in 10 days. I tried several times trying to reach her at her multiple hotels but I couldn't, so I had to wait to hear from her. I didn't, so what does that say when out of one breath she loves and misses me so much but she couldn't find 1 minute of free time just to call and say Hello in 10 days?
  • Aug 3, 2009, 04:21 PM
    aunt1976

    First, try not to think she doesn't love you something might has happened. If she calls and she finally calls and she still says she was just to busy to call. Take her word but... research her see if she acts different than she did before she left and everything else will fall in place. Good Luck!
  • Aug 3, 2009, 04:23 PM
    aunt1976
    One more thing its easier to call and say I love you than to email anyway
  • Aug 3, 2009, 04:30 PM
    s_cianci
    I wouldn't read too much into it. Although I must admit, if she was on vacation then why the heck would she be too "busy" to call? It makes no sense but we won't worry about that right now. As the previous poster said, observe her behavior after she returns from this trip ; that'll be worth more scrutiny that worrying about what she does while she's away.
  • Aug 5, 2009, 09:21 PM
    wth_happened

    She is on vacation... taking a break from everything. I just did that last week myself. I just needed me time. She will come around and like the others have said don't worry about it. See she is away and relaxing and enjoying herself... you are at home, probably bored without her.
  • Aug 6, 2009, 05:02 AM
    LJDK

    This to me I can only interpret as "your not important enough in my life to spend 1 minute of my day to let you know how i feel"

    But that's me. Don't listen to me. I'm pessimistic.
  • Aug 6, 2009, 07:58 AM
    wth_happened
    Yes, but if you show this side of you as needy and insecure... it will push her further away. You need to keep busy, she will be home soon.
  • Aug 6, 2009, 08:15 AM
    HistorianChick

    I just returned from a three week trip to China. On this trip, every day was chock full of activities, teachings, vacation "stuff," and time with my fellow-travelers. Most of the time, my phone was out of service, my internet didn't work, or I couldn't get to an internet café.

    Granted, my three weeks were a lot longer than 10 days, but I called home maybe twice. Emailed every week at least once or twice. Does this mean that I love my family less? Of course not.

    Does this mean I was busy having a vacation? Definitely.

    Talk to her about it if it bothers you. Every relationship has to be built upon communication, honesty, and trust.

    Be honest. Communicate. Trust.
  • Aug 6, 2009, 10:13 AM
    talaniman

    I think you're the problem. Can't a g/f enjoy herself without you?

    Take a chill pill, and deal with your ISSUES.
  • Sep 11, 2011, 02:44 PM
    ineedhelplease
    I would say on a vacation, kind of let them be. Let her have a nice time enjoy the place, its not that she doesn't love you she's just.. on a vacation.

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