Me and my boyfriend have never had sex however we are very physical and oral sex is what we practice most.

Yesterday, I was at his house and I simply removed his tshirt.
Right then I realised he had been wanking. I just asked him what was that (he has some dry stuff) and why.

He got very defensive and told me it was from the day before when he was at my house.
I constantly told him that after we were together HE SHOWERED so that shouldn't be there.
He was getting slightly pissed at me thinking he would wank.

He was telling me: are you serious? Would you seriuosly think I'd do that? He was asking me if I trust him or not... and I felt bad for even thinking he would wank. I don't feel comfortable knowing he s wanking when we were physical with each other on the same day. It kind of feels like I'm not enough.

I was just trying to end the discussion and he was telling me that he didn't.


Later the subject came up again and he was defending himself again...
I know he's not deprived, because even though we never actually slept together, I know how satisfied he is every time we re together.

Later he ended up admitting he did wank. I just couldn't believe he d lie to me like that... I had felt bad for seeming like I don't thrust him..

He said he was embarrrased..

What do you guys think?

Maybe he was embarrassed. I don't see why it is such a big deal.
He has sexual desires. He is a man.
Just be glad that instead of pressuring you for sex, he is relieving himself through masturbation.
That guy's a real keeper.

And good for both of you for waiting. It's rare in this day and age.

I get what you say. We wait because we know its too early and we're too young however it was weird to know that the previous night he was sleeping at my house and we got physical and when we woke up we were close again and he came for a number of times and said it was the best he'd ever had... and then just half an hour after I leave him he wanks.

I worry that I'm not enough for him to satisfy himself

Coming from a guy, masturbation is something we do a lot. Even on days when I've had sex, I might still go home and masturbate. Not because my partner wasn't enough, but maybe because I want to let go of some steam, or maybe I'm just horny again. Don't take it personally at all. Him jacking off does not mean that you're not enough for him.

mm... Thanks a lot for your help. :)

It doesn't necessarily mean anything. As Trenton said, some men masturbate daily, even as much as up to 10 times a day! :eek:
Old habits die hard. If he's used to ejaculating three times a day, he'll continue to try to ejaculate three times a day.
Given the worst, you would have to give him [insert his number here] blow jobs a day to satisfy his needs. It's just easier on everyone if you let it be.
I'm not saying don't express your feelings toward him (you should tell him, more than telling us) but I'm saying it's probably nothing negative towards you so you don't need to worry.

First you are both very smart for waiting to have sex, however you are doing other things and its very possible that even though he enjoys doing other things with you it may not be enough for him he has to relieve the pressure so he's does it himself instead of pressuring you, and that's a good guy! However as far as you feeln like your not good enough, hun you are and you are good enough for him, that's why he's not pressurin you into anything, don't get offended by it, its part of life, my husband and myself have been together since we were 12 and we waited but I went through the same thing with him and at first I didn't like it either but the older I got the more I loved him for not pushing me into anything to young and we have been married for six years now, so hang in there and give him a little credit, if you see it again act like you don't or tell him your OK with it so he's more willing to talk to you about it

Thanks a lot. That's some real great advice there :)

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he said he was embarrassed..

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That's very likely the truth, as most guys are about masturbating, especially to a girlfriend.

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what do you guys think?

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I think you forget it, and don't press about it until you can be comfortable talking about it, and not take it personally. It's a touchy subject as you see.

Your reaction has a big effect on him being honest about what we all do in private.

Forget about the masturbation issue on concentrate on the open communicating issue.
Of course he lied he was embarrassed but he came clean with it and that's a keeper, so just tell him in the future he can come to you with anything and please don't hold it against him or bring it up in a fight because you will crush him and any possibility of him being honest in the future