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  • Aug 2, 2009, 05:52 PM
    SuperM
    How to flirt?
    Hey,
    So I was wondering if anyone could tell me so actions or sayings on how to flirt with a guy... I'm shy so I don't really know how to. I don't want to be like "Whoo!" flirting just enough to drop hints I like him. If anyone can help it would help A lot!
    Thanks:)
  • Aug 2, 2009, 06:17 PM
    N0help4u

    Flirting can be a turn off really often it comes off as corny and phoney. Especially if you use worn out over done phrases and so forth.
    I think a lot of times a quick witty reply goes a lot further. If a guy notices you have a sense of humor then he might notice you more than if you come of with some line you feel awkward saying to get his attention.

    I am not good with examples of things to say. I have to hear something to come up with a good comeback so I can't really explain quick witty reply.
  • Aug 2, 2009, 06:49 PM
    DrJ

    N0help is right. There are no magic lines or saying. Just speak confidently and stay true to yourself. Don't try to emulate what you think he likes if its not you. He will see right through it.

    Kinetics is your friend. That's the way we interpret body language, facial expressions, hand gestures, eye contact, etc. Your eyes will tell him a lot if you are positive, confident, and sincere.

    Anytime you touch him... a brush walking by, a soft slap to the shoulder, a push to his side or leg... c'mon... a guys attention isn't that hard to get.

    Just make sure you are getting positive attention ;)
  • Aug 2, 2009, 07:02 PM
    ITstudent2006

    Well the first question you have to ask yourself is whether this guy likes you. If he doesn't then you can flirt all day and it probably won't make a bit of difference.

    I agree with the last two posts. Flirting can either make you or break you. It's better to stay true to who you are, if he likes the shy you then why attempt to be outgoing and flirty with him... that might just turn him off.

    What you have to do is just stay calm and don't seem desperate. Don't push anything and remember that sometimes its the things you don't say... body language is a huge thing, sometimes body language is easier to interpret then a flirty line. Smile, be confident in whatever it is that you do, and drop little hello's little hi's and smiles and he'll notice... these are all stepping stones to starting that first conversation.

    When you guys talk just be yourself and try and read him and see where he's going with this "thing"

    What you have to remember is that he likes you for who you are right now, being flirty and outgoing is not why he's attracted to you... and it might shun him away a little

    Rick
  • Aug 2, 2009, 08:32 PM
    HelpinHere

    I'll say something else, flirting isn't all just talk. I believe they have that covered, so I'll go on to physical flirting.

    Catch his eye, and refuse to look away.
    Give him a playful shove.
    When handing him a paper/pencil/etc, brush your hand against his.
    Sit next to him.
    If he talks to you, just smile and watch his reaction.
    If you're up to it, maybe show off for him a little.

    I know from experience that guys look for all of these things. There are plenty more, but you can figure it out! ;)

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