Hey,

I've known this girl for quite a while now and we still talk, but she's seeing another one. Lately, I've had this urge to tell her how I feel to her JUST so that I can just move on...

I know it can destroy our friendship but right now, It doesn't matter because the way I feel just messes me up. My idea is to tell her and not wait her answer if she accepts it or not. Just so that I can open up and move on...

What do you guys think? Because right now, I'm feeling like I can't move on until I do that...

Damnit, the thread should be: "Telling how I feel to a friend who's seeing another one.

See, she is seeing someone now, so she is out of bounds, and I don't think you should even tell her you have feelings for her, because it will stress her out, put pressure on her relationship and will definitely cause problems with your friendship.

I think its best to just let her be happy with the person she is with, as it is her choice, and just be her friend. If the right time to tell her you have feelings for her presents itself, when she is not with anyone else, then go for it, but right now, chill...

The thing is... At the time, I've felt a connection with her but for some stupid reason, I didn't tell her (I was preoccupied with a lot of stuff at the time. Mostly family stuff) so I feel as if I've missed the opportunity.

If I was rejected, then, It's wouldn't be a problem because I know I can just forget it and be friends... but right now, I feel it's like a missed opportunity...

If it's not a good idea, then I need a damn good advice on how to move on...

I see what you mean, you feel like you had a chance to tell her but you missed it now.

You can't do anything right now. Seriously, its not a good idea, because even though you think you could just be friends with her if she rejects you, she may not feel the same. It would always be awkward because she knows you have feelings for her which you have expressed and she doesn't feel the same way. Not good.

There are ways in which you can move on. There are lots of stickies in here which tell you how to move on from someone, like take up a hobby, spend time with other friends, work out, stuff like that.

I think the best thing for you to do, if you care about this girl, is not to mess up her current relationship or make her feel weird around you. Just be her friend, nothing more, nothing less...

How would you tell her if you did when you had the chance... im in this dilemna right now... I donnt want to miss the opportunity... but I feel like I am... she isn't seeing anybody yet... can you help?

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Originally Posted by HeartTrips

how would you tell her if u did when u had the chance....im in this dilemna right now....i donnt want to miss the opportunity....but i feel like i am....she isnt seeing anybody yet.....can u help?

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Hi, its best you ask your question in a new thread. That way you will also get more replies.