Ever since I had my first baby in 07 I don't really want to have sex with my husband and I still feel the same way now that my new baby was born in 09 what can I do to feel the same way my husband does, horny?

Have you discussed this with your OB/GYN? He may refer you to an endocrinologist.

Your hormones are out of whack, probably. Do see doctor and tell them of your lack of sexual desire. They can help you.

I agree you may be imbalanced. This can be... well not normal, but common. It happened to me too. Definitely speak to your ob/gyn about it. And if you and him are not uncomfratable about it, bring your husband with you to the appointment.

You have 2 kids who are both probably not potty-trained yet.

You have WAY more responsibilities for them, and way more roles that you have to fulfill than you did before you had children.

While part of the issue may be hormonal--the other part is that it's VERY hard to switch from being "mommy" to being "sexy wife". Especially if you're tired, and have even more work still to do.

Plan a date night with your husband. Get out of the house together, no kids, for at least one night every other week. Even if you can't afford more than a babysitter, you can go for a walk or sit at a park or whatever. Do something that is focused on the two of you, and NOT about the kids, the housework, work, whatever.

Getting a connection back that has nothing to do with anything but the two of you should go a long way towards getting mentally in the mood for sex.

First of all when I was pregnant I couldn't get enough attention. Men are not very good with giving us attention and or effection. In some ways they are very selfish ahen it comes to that, mst of them anyway. My sugestion is to ask him to give you effection("if you are the effectionate type"). When it comes down to it, your really to worried and carring for your child and don't have time to worrie about him as much as you did, however you need someone to worrie about you at times; and it feels good to know that you have someone who is there for your feelings and comfurt. Tell him to put you in the mood with his devin love!

~Dana