Ok. So I've been in a relationship for almost a year and a half. When we first started going out he was the biggest loser but I grew to like his loserness if that makes sense. But anyway the months would pass and I began to love him more and more. Don't get me wrong he messed up a couple times like on vday he went to a party instead of hanging out with me I let him say sorry and I let it go. I was so lenient with who he hungout with I never gave him crap for never hangouting with me cause I didn't want him to hate me but I guess that was a bad idea cause by the end of this relationship he broke up with me through a text message. He said he couldn't stand to see me cry. How do you do that to someone. I can't handle this , we were eachothers first everything and I feel so lost without my best friend I need so serious advice.

This may hurt a bit but I don't think his feelings for you were as strong as yours for his. He sounds like he has some growing up to do - ending a relationship like that is cowardice and your better off.

Have no contact and focus on yourself. Hang out with some close friends for a while. You will be OK.

Hmmm. I think that you always knew he was a loser and now he's proved it. You just ignored it for a while because it was convenient and you wanted him to like you.

He wasn't your everything - you just wanted a relationship.

He's proved he's a loser (which you knew anyway) and he wasn't your best friend otherwise why would he treat you this way?

Let him go and next time avoid losers.

Get over him, show him that he doesn't deserve you.
Cause he really doesn't.

And probe to him that he truly is the biggestt looser, cause he lost you, aand you lost nothing when he broke up with you.

I know its hard to do it, or to really believe it, but with time you'll be able to see this clear..

Bye, take care.

Why do women go out with losers, especially when they know they are losers?? I don't get it.

If he is a loser, then let him go and find a winner.

The more you are the 'bender' or giver in a relationship, the more you are investing in the relationship. If that isn't given on equal terms then the relationship is doomed to failure and you are doomed to a greater heartbreak.

You already know that you deserve better, now it's time to do what is best for you. Don't change for a partner, relationships require compromise, not change.

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Originally Posted by Angelaaaox

When we first started going out he was the biggest loser but i grew to like his loserness if that makes sense... he broke up with me through a text message... How do u do that to someone. I can't handle this , we were eachothers first everything and i feel so lost without my best friend i need so serious advice.

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What were you expecting?

If he was a loser in the beginning, he's a loser now. You made a mistake and dated someone you probably shouldn't have, but now you know.

Forget about him and move on.