My "Friend With Benefits"
Okay... first off, I know this forum is all about advice and/or critizism but, PLEASE take it easy on me!
There was a post not too long ago about "friends with benefits" and I mentioned that I had one for a couple of years and that it worked for me! Now... me and my "friend with benefits" got into a fight last night!
I had mentioned that when one of us were in a relationship that we didn't do anything with eachother; well, his last girlfriend was one of my very good friends! When him and I were messing around she would encourage me to stay away from him because she thought he was bad news! She never told me why but just suggested it so... I did for about a month and then I found out that they (my fwb and my good friend) started dating! I thought to myself "okay... you can't help who you fall for" and I was willing to suck it up until a couple of days after I heard that they had been dating, she was bad mouthing me to some of our mutual friends that I was obsessed with my fwb. I tried to confront her and she ignored my phone calls, text messages and whenever I seen her, which was at the bar that I work at part-time, I would try to walk up and approach her but she would see me coming and get up and leave! I never wanted to make a scene, I just wanted to know why she was saying things about me that weren't true or ask her what made her think this! (For the record, my "friend with benefits" would initiate the booty calls, not me). When I talked to him about it, he even agreed!
Anyway... a couple of weeks ago they broke up because he told me that he felt the age difference was a factor. She is 9 years older than him. Him and I are 5 years apart. Also, he felt as though she was using him to help financially and he was doing work on a house she had bought!
Last night he tried to talk to me about her again and I just got soooo fed up that I get up and left and went home! He text me to ask what was wrong and I told him that I am tired of hearing about this girl and that I sit and listen to him talk about her but yet he told me that when they were dating that my name was not allowed to be mentioned!
I texted him back last night and told me that this "friends with benefits" needs to stop because he is the only one getting "benefits"! He wanted to continue to talk but I was emotionally drained last night and decided to ignore his text!
I am going to see him tonight because him and I have to work at the bar together and he is going to say something!
MY QUESTION: How do I once and for all break this bad cycle but still stay friends with him? Also, is that even possible?
P.S. I know that I am going to hear "I told you so" but... right now I am emotionally drained and I will not respond!
