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  • Jul 28, 2009, 02:53 PM
    swenn
    Being bullied?
    Well, I've been bullied by this one kid verbally for the past 4 years or so.. last year I finally told an adult and the kid stopped, but recently after I received his aim name by accident he started calling me really harsh words like , gay, and . So I blocked him. Now I'm really confused cause I don't know what to do... should I tell an adult what happened? What should I do? This kid is on my soccer team and stuff so its really hard fro me to avoid him. Im actually afraid to go to school cause I don't know what will happen nxt.
    Thanks all,
    swenn
  • Jul 28, 2009, 02:58 PM
    N0help4u

    You blocked him that is the best thing you could do.
    If he starts on you again then yes you need to tell an adult again. Right now there isn't a problem so nothing really to tell.
  • Jul 28, 2009, 03:14 PM
    puppydoggie

    You will always have the last laurgh, don't ever let anybody treat you badly, if he knows you don't care he will stop. Try reading self-help book they are intresting I read them all the time, you can get some from the libuary or look through a good book shop
  • Jul 28, 2009, 03:33 PM
    danielnoahsmommy

    It is time to start building your confidence. How about a karate class. Not to beat him up but just to feel better about yourself.
  • Jul 29, 2009, 12:15 PM
    0rphan

    Hi swenn,

    4 years is a long time to be bullied, time for it to stop. He's done it because he can, he needs to be stopped.
    You've done the right thing by telling an adult, should it happen again you tell again.

    Bullies are usually being bullied themselves, maybe in the home or by another, they then continue the pattern by doing it themselves.

    I wonder does this person have many friends?
    Is it a case of him showing off in front of them,but is then quiet when on his own!

    Sometimes this can be a jealousy issue,maybe your very popular in school, where as he's not and would secretly like to become part of the crowd you hang out with.

    Perhaps you should use reverse tactics.
    Next time you are at school and you are asked to choose a partner to take part in some sort of school activity, choose him (the bully) his reaction will say it all..

    He'll either be so shocked and agree ,not wanting to embarrass himself in front of his mates..
    Or
    He'll tell you to... off, in which case you've tried.

    I think he'll agree, mainly because he wants to be included in your crowd.
    In my experience of bullies, it's far better to have them as a friend than an enemy.

    Keep me posted
  • Aug 29, 2010, 01:03 PM
    Kourtney12345

    He probably keeps it up because you let him win by feeling down! The next time he bullies, act like you don't care. And same thing for the next time. If you keep acting like you don't care, he will move on to someone else because he sees that he cannot hurt you anymore no matter what. Best of luck!

    ~kourtney♥
  • Aug 29, 2010, 01:31 PM
    Kitkat22
    Kourtney please pay attention to the date on the original post before you respond. This is an old thread

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