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  • Jul 28, 2009, 11:25 AM
    chicagotulips
    Would you.
    As some of you may know from my previous post today... My boyfriend and I are having issues in the bedroom.

    Well, to add to my stress, my boyfriend has told me that while he is no longer sexually attracted to me (See my other post)... he wants to watch me with another guy. He says that it would be a major turn on for him to be able to watch me have sex with someone else.

    We have kind of tried this with a friend of his who went down on me with my boyfriend watching... I it was kind of fun, but I have no interest in his friend what-so-ever.

    I am also bi-curious... so he has been trying to help me find a woman to experiment with... I'm new to all of this and I'm just kind of going along with everything for now.

    Am I insane?
  • Jul 28, 2009, 11:27 AM
    danielnoahsmommy

    Starting to sense a troll!
  • Jul 28, 2009, 11:37 AM
    chicagotulips
    I'm sorry if you feel like I'm a troll.

    I just found this website tody, and am really having a lot of issues that I'm not really sure who to go to about. Since this is a semi-secret way of getting my questions answered without telling everyone who I am.

    I know yous said something about my other posts as well...

    Well I was unaware of the 2 identical posts on the relationship board... not sure how that happened. And in my past experience on message boards and chats, placing the same post on several boards is the best way to get different perspectives from different people... some people may not look at this board at one board at all... and therefore would never answer my question.

    If you have a problem with my questions... quit clicking on them.
  • Jul 28, 2009, 11:40 AM
    danielnoahsmommy

    I have no problem with your ?'s. You only need to post on one board because we see them all, it leads to confusion and to many multiple posts.

    It's in the rules of the site. (others will agree)


    I would leave him alone as he has stated he is not attracted to you sexually. Do not degrade yourself just to please him. Move on . Find yourself a guy/gal to please you .
  • Jul 28, 2009, 12:11 PM
    Synnen

    I do not EVER recommend bringing someone else into the bedroom when you are ALREADY having problems.

    Get rid of the schmuck. Find a healthier relationship.
  • Jul 28, 2009, 01:43 PM
    N0help4u
    .
    I agree that you need to dump him the sooner the better. He has lost interest to the point that he would suggest that nothing you can do will get him back to a healthy relationship. You do that for him then he will only then start with now do this and now do that. Nothing is going to please him.
  • Jul 28, 2009, 01:46 PM
    N0help4u
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by chicagotulips View Post
    I'm sorry if you feel like I'm a troll.

    I just found this website tody, and am really having alot of issues that I'm not really sure who to go to about. Since this is a semi-secret way of getting my questions answered without telling everyone who I am.

    I know yous said something about my other posts as well...

    Well I was unaware of the 2 identical posts on the relationship board... not sure how that happened. And in my past experience on message boards and chats, placing the same post on several boards is the best way to get different perspectives from different people... some people may not look at this board at one board at all... and therefore would never answer my question.

    If you have a problem with my questions... quit clicking on them.
    We all look at many of the posts. Unlike other boards this one is simple to check everywhere.
    It is not a problem of ''If you have a problem with my questions... quit clicking on them.''
    The problem is the site rule is stick to one post to one topic. This is your fourth post on your boyfriend problems within the past two or three days.
  • Jul 28, 2009, 01:51 PM
    chicagotulips
    Like I said before, I'm new to the boards, today was my first post.

    I apologize for any confusion, since I posted multiple times.

    Can we move on now?
  • Jul 28, 2009, 01:55 PM
    N0help4u

    You are right all your posts are today.
    My days feel like weeks.

    Maybe a moderator will combine some of the posts.
  • Aug 9, 2009, 03:04 AM
    CanadianCrook
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by danielnoahsmommy View Post
    starting to sense a troll!
    I don't think so, many members of this site seem to blurt out "troll" a little to often and this usually gets the member with actual questions banned. No need to blurt that out on every thread that you cannot relate to. However.. if you see a person talking about having sex with a goat.. let me know ;) :p

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by chicagotulips View Post
    As some of you may know from my previous post today... My boyfriend and I are having issues in the bedroom.

    Well, to add to my stress, my boyfriend has told me that while he is no longer sexually attracted to me (See my other post)...he wants to watch me with another guy. He says that it would be a major turn on for him to be able to watch me have sex with someone else.

    We have kinda tried this with a friend of his who went down on me with my boyfriend watching... I it was kinda fun, but I have no interest in his friend what-so-ever.

    I am also bi-curious... so he has been trying to help me find a woman to experiment with... I'm new to all of this and I'm just kinda going along with everything for now.

    Am I insane?
    Well if you are having fun doing this, then why not? Just as long as there are no repercussions. I too myself have thought about watching my significant other please another man. I would never go through with it, but its in the back of my mind.

    However.. you said "To add to my stress" , what does this mean? If you are not interested in experimenting with other people while your boyfriend watches.. then why do it? If you feel like you are being pushed in doing this or think that having sex with other people for your boyfriend to watch will get his sexual drive running for you, well.. I don't think it will. I know it is harsh but I think your relationship is near the end of its rope. There is no point in getting involved in something that you don't want to do to save something that you don't really have.
  • Aug 10, 2009, 06:32 AM
    smoothy
    We don't (see other post)... Many look at other posts, but this isn't a scavenger hunt to get the info.

    Info goes in the thread that it is asked from..

    But like the others... thinking about something is fine... trying to pressure them into it isn't. And you don't have to do anything you are not comfortible with. If that means you break up, so be it. You did not have enough in common anyway and its best to find someone else that's a better match. They exist, but you have to be willing to look for them. That's what being single and dating is all about.
  • Aug 10, 2009, 11:41 AM
    HotPotato2009

    Um... what is a "troll"?
  • Aug 10, 2009, 01:21 PM
    shazamataz
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by HotPotato2009 View Post
    Um.................. what is a "troll"?
    Someone who creates questions simply for attention, they are usually ridiculous questions like "I am in love with my pet rock" or something like that.

    Also can be defined as a trouble maker, purposefully starting arguments or giving stupid responses.
  • Aug 10, 2009, 01:23 PM
    HotPotato2009

    Oh OK lol
  • Aug 10, 2009, 09:20 PM
    jenniepepsi

    I think its time to move on. This relationship is teetering on unhealthy and it won't take much to make it toxic.

    Good luck

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