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  • Jul 28, 2009, 08:39 AM
    VenusABC
    Bumped into my ex boyfriend
    The other day I bumped into my ex boyfriend. I hadn't seen him for years although he is in my Facebook friend, I never really check what he is up to.
    Anyway, we bumped into each other by chance, I saw him first and stopped and said hello, I hope I never did.
    We started talking, or better HE started talking, he spoke NON-STOP for about 2 hours (no joke) bragging about his amazing life, girlfriend, job etc - why did I stay and listen? Part of me was curious to know what was going on in his life, part of me is masochist but another part of me wanted to walk away. I stayed also because I wanted to get some info about his business and he said he was waiting for someone who could help me in a project (where his company would have made some money too, obviously).
    What bothered me the most? The fact that he bragged so much about all the nice things he has, the nice apartments he bought around the world, how successful he is, how successful his girlfriend is etc... but why he had to tell me? Maybe he just told me a whole bunch of BS to annoy the heck out of me? If that was his purpose he totally won.

    Don't get me wrong, there is no lingering attraction, I am actually engaged to the most caring, considerate, sweet guy on the planet... me and my ex boyfriend had absolutely nothing in common (he is not even good looking), and plus we had a pretty bad break up (so bad that he stopped talking to me for awhile, plus a couple of years later he claimed he was not totally over me yet).

    Anyway, he was so weird during the whole converation, he kept on sitting on the floor, getting up, then sitting again... then getting up.. I told him he seemed so restless, and he took out the excuse that his back hurt.

    Why am I writing on here? Because I am annoyed as hell! I am annoyed because he is so lucky, his life seems so perfect... yes, I said SEEMS, because I know that if I got closer or into his life I would probably find out that nothing is as great as he tried to show... but I need someone to confirm that :( --- why he is so lucky and I am not ? He got a great working company, I got laid off - he got houses all around the world and I am getting kicked out of my little apartment... why life isn't fair? HE doesn't deserve it.

    Anyway... we all know life is not fair... I am just so annoyed that I don't know what to do, I just want to vent.

    Thanks for listening :eek:
  • Jul 28, 2009, 09:03 AM
    bella99

    It seems like he was just trying to impress you or make you jealous of the life he has. I doubt its anywhere as good as he is saying. He just wants you to "see what you're missing". It also seems like he was incredibly nervous seeing you again. He may still not be totally over you.

    I don't think you have anything to miss or be jealous of. You mention that you have are engaged to a great person - you are obviously a lucky lady. You and your ex split up for a reason, and you found a new better guy. No need to worry about the ex or how he acted.

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