My husband has been trying to create a bad impression of me around town so that he establishes himself as a victim rather than me. I have been married to an emotionally/verbally abusive husband who refuses to give up and allow me a happy life without him. My husband has spent most of his He has been trying to sabatouge every effort and service that will help allow me freedom. He has even been so low as to write slanderous innapropriate lengthy letters to my children's teachers, friens and associates that have major influences in my children's and my life (suggesting that I am of immoral character and has mental illness). I take great care of living my life in an honest respectful manner. I have been taking anxiety medicine for my thyroid cancer. These words that he uses to create a unfavorable mom has caused me further stress. What course of action can I take to stop this! This is ultimately affecting my children's right to a happy life.

What a nasty, nasty man.

I see two possible solutions here.

One is to gather up the letters you've mentioned, along with detailed documentation of information you are aware of that he has spread about you.

Take them to your lawyer, and ask him what legal remedies are available to you to have him stop.

The second possible solution is to just ignore what he has done. I would think that anybody reading anything he has written, or who listens to what he says about you would think that he is off his rocker. He wouldn't be taken seriously by anybody that knows you.

He will eventually have to accept that the marriage is over, but you should be concerned in the meanwhile, that he very well may start to harass you in other ways. Like showing up at your workplace, knocking on your door in the middle of the night, calling at all hours, and stalking.

Just be aware that irrational behaviour can escalate when you do not respond.

Sorry, I just realized this is on the 'law' board, and I am not qualified to give legal advice.

My post should probably be removed.

My sister's husband is also same.she's suffering since from the day one she got married. He is using abusive language and trying to create that my sister's character is not good.he even tried at the school she is working.but nobody including his family members trust his words; at the same time nobody is punishing him. One weekback he tried to kill her on the road.. what a public.. nobody came to help her except an old man who is going through on the way on his bike. Then my sister's husband stopped and ran away. He is asking her to stop the job.she told him to do the job then she will stop because we have 2 children andwe need surive them.but he won't do any work and asking her tostop. He is a drunker. Government no actions on the wine shops. She is in trouble now.