I'm in my early 20's, and my fiancé is in his late 20's. For the past 6-7 months, we have not had sex (due to his doctor telling him he had extreme low T-levels). Finally, this morning, he was able to have an erection, but he ejaculated in LITERALLY 3-5 seconds. I have a very high sex drive, where as my partner does not. I don't know what to do anymore. Friends tell me I should leave him because it's not going to change. I don't want to leave, but I need to be able to make love to the man I'm about to marry. Him rejecting me and saying 'no' all the time makes me feel so humiliating and unattractive - I actually called a mental clinic the other day asking about admitting myself because my depression had reached an all time low. My fiancé doesn't seem to care or realize that he's hurting me (even if he doesn't mean to). We haven't kissed or made out in 7 months either. He won't touch me, I'm not allowed to touch him. I want him to call a doctor today and find out about viagra, but I'm upset at the fact that he has to take it and he's not even 30 yet.

I really don't know what to do. I want to feel sexy and wanted and loved, and he's making me feel the opposite.

Then leave now and save yourself from the hurt later.

There is no saving this relationship, since he doesn't care or make you feel beautiful.

Sorry

I believe he probably does care, but he feels so ashamed of himself for being inadequate. He does need to see a doctor, maybe a physciatrist to figure out if it is a mental problem. Also a medical doctor to see if maybe there is something wrong down there. He may need Viagra or Cialis or something. You should definently try to help him by getting him to do this. If that doesn't work and you can't handle the way he is then you should leave and save yourself the depression.