Why? My fife is not a virgin at first night

What culture are you and your wife?

Chances are, if she is not a virgin on your first night, she either had sex, or was raped.

You should talk to her about it.

How do you know?

If she's not a virgin for your first night its because she had sex before.


However just because her hyman is not intact means absolutelty nothing. Many actual virgins get their hyman torn during non-sexual activities.

Did she tell you she Was a vigin? How do you know she isn't?

Define virgin.

Either you love her and let it go or you make an issue of it and leave her. Not two many other viable options.
Even if she lied to you what else can you do.
Keeping the relationship and holding it against her isn't going to go in a healthy direction.