Originally Posted by
LJStepdad
I have been married for about 7 years now. Through the years my wife has always seemed to have a "victimized" type of relationship with her son. His bio father was very self centered drug user always thinking of himself, and my wife believes that because of that tragedy in his life, she must let her son have and do whatever he wants. He has graduated High School at 17 and is about to turn 18. He will not help out around the house unless you badger him over and over to do something. He works 6 to 8 hours a week to get some gas money, sleeps in to 1:00 in the afternoon and has no drive to do anything. My biggest problem is that he will never do something for anybody because he appreciates them, but only because he gets something from them like money. He is turning out to be like his bio father, self centered and only cares about his wants. It makes me very frustrated at my wife for enforcing what I believe to be a bad pattern. Am I overreacting, or does this seem to be the pattern of this generation of kids? My wife and I both work 40 to 50 hours a week and own a business. What am I doing wrong? Should I feel so frustrated that he will turn out to be a "victimized spoiled adult"?