What do I do when I try to communicate and tell my boyfriend how I feel and in response he tries to avoid the question?:o

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Originally Posted by ms_heavenly77

...when I try to communicate and tell my boyfriend how I feel ... he tries to avoid the question?

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Saying "I love you" or even "I hate you" isn't a question, it's a statement. If you are delivering the sentiment as a question, stop, and deliver it as a statement. I think most guys have no respect for nor tolerate weak professions of feeling disquised as a question, discussion, or interrogation. If you are already delivering it as a statement, then your boyfriend's response is an accurate reflection of his true feelings for you, his emotional immaturity, or lack of verbal skills. None bode well for you. Half a relationship isn't a relationship.

Not everyone is good at expressing their feelings and sad to say,men in particular seem to be lacking in this skill.

Men are people of action,not words and it is difficult for them to open up emotionally.

If he is young and inexperienced with expressing himself,this will take time.

You can only hope that he is hearing you and understands what you are are saying.You could ask*Do you understand where I am coming from*?

Nagging will make him go on auto pilot,he is there but he isn't hearing Anything.Nothing turns a guy off faster that feeling nagged.

Pick your moments to have a talk,never when you are angry and ask him how you can both make the relationship better.

He needs to understand that love and commitment is more than just showing up at your doorstep.There is work and communication takes work.

I believe that your boyfriend does care about you. But just doesn't know how to express his feeling to you. If he says I love you or that he misses you. You just have to go with it... and as time goes on I guarteed he will open up to you. That's what I had trouble with my boyfriend and now 6 months he's opened up a lot more.I just waited for the guy to open up.