Well really it's my Husband, it seems to me he don't like kissing me, it's been a issue ever since we met, if I try to kiss him, and he just stiffs up, there is no reaction back from him, if I mention it, he says I am imaging this, when I want to talk about it, he gets mad. I thought I had bad breath, but I don't, I can see that would be off putting, he has just always avoided Kissing me. It's just him, he won't talk about it, says there is nothing to talk about. I know it's not me, as I had boyfriends before, and the Kissing was just Great. I miss this in our relationship, it is important to me more than Sex. It makes me feel worthless, like I got something wrong with me, and I can't mention it to anyone, they will think I am making a fuss about nothing. I haven't kissed my husband for months, I miss this in our relationship, but it's not normal, to never want to kiss your wife.

Some guys just aren't comfortable with that sort of thing and it sounds like your husband is one of them.

I do find it a little strange. I had an ex who wouldn't want to kiss me and it is very disturbing. I couldn't ever figure out why and it really bothered me. It was long periods before I would get a kiss. I found out later that she had cheated on me several times so maybe that was why. That might not be the case here but maybe he just has a lot on his mind.

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Originally Posted by s_cianci

Some guys just aren't comfortable with that sort of thing and it sounds like your husband is one of them.

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Well I guess, but we have a cool SEX life, have no problems there. What is strange is he has had past relationships, and there wasn't any problems there with them. He don't mind me kissing his body, sorry about all this, I am just explaining how it is, I don't want to get to personal about our Sex life. Yes well that's aloud, kissing his body and so on, but never his lips, if I try,keeps his lips locked, but his reaction to my kiss is instantly as in, he goes all robot like, and he tries to make out it is me with the problem. To me Kissing is Loving, it shows that you are connected with that person, he is a very Sexual guy, looks after his body, works out, he's a mans man, if you know what I mean. He is African, maybe it's a culture thing, but I couldn't ask his family if this is a common thing with there men, they would laugh at me, plus everyone looks up to him, I don't want him to look small in front of his family. Even if I did it discreetly, someone is bound to expose me. I guess I will just have to except that My Man Don't Do Kissing. But, there is always a BUT, I miss kissing.

I'm going to approach this from a different perspective. It's not so much the lack of kissing that bothers me. If your husband has a problem kissing you, then he should tell you. A simple explanation can go a long way. But the fact that he's avoiding the topic is very troubling. Who knows what else he's avoiding.

Successful marriages are based on a strong communication system. He should feel comfortable enough to explain to you why he doesn't want to kiss so much.

I would say, continue to talk to him about it. But approach him differently. He's obviously sensitive to this issue, so make sure you create an atmosphere that makes it easier to discuss this issue. Speak calmly and in a respectable manner. There's no reason for you to feel so deprived and I believe that he owes you an explanation as your husband.

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Originally Posted by adam_89

I do find it a little strange. I had an ex who wouldn't want to kiss me and it is very disturbing. I couldn't ever figure out why and it really bothered me. It was long periods before I would get a kiss. I found out later that she had cheated on me several times so maybe that was why. That might not be the case here but maybe he just has alot on his mind.

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Yeah well that did cross my mind, that it might be someone he likes doing it with, other than me, because that's how it makes you think, you know that's normal to think that way, then I feel bad for thinking that about him, and I did abit of snooping around, spying I suppose, and came up with nothing, we live fairly simple lifes, we have a kid, we love our familys, we are religious. He seems Happy with me, I Love Him more than Life itself. He is my first proper relationship in that kind of way, but I know how to kiss, and I love kissing, and I want to so much with him, but it isn't happining. But if someone was cheating you, could that person still go home to there wife, have a full on relationship, but just cut out the Kissing, I would have thought it would be the other way around, you know no Sex tonight honey, but I settle for a kiss instead. Thank you all of you kind people, I don't know what the answer is.

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Originally Posted by I wish

I'm going to approach this from a different perspective. It's not so much the lack of kissing that bothers me. If your husband has a problem kissing you, then he should tell you. A simple explaination can go a long way. But the fact that he's avoiding the topic is very troubling. Who knows what else he's avoiding.

Successful marriages are based on a strong communication system. He should feel comfortable enough to explain to you why he doesn't want to kiss so much.

I would say, continue to talk to him about it. But approach him differently. He's obviously sensitive to this issue, so make sure you create an atmosphere that makes it easier to discuss this issue. Speak calmly and in a respectable manner. There's no reason for you to feel so deprived and I believe that he owes you an explanation as your husband.

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I think that's what I will do, find a time to sit down together and talk this out, I know I got to be calm, I know men don't do out of control screaming woman, well he don't, and that's not me. I will think about all this first, as it dose bother me somewhat, and I have to find the right time to approach this matter, believe me, it's not easy, and when everything is just fine and dandy, I don't want there to be upset in the household, and I don't want other family members finding out, as both our sets of parents, tend to poke there noses in, his family are African, mine are Italian, all the woman stick together, all the men stick together. Its our wedding Anniversary soon, so maybe after that, take some time out. Thank you x