So last year I broke up with my ex boyfriend.. Last couple months we have talked on Facebook everday and he makes me SO happy but he has a new girlfriend.. He says he happy.. Now I'm realizing I was so stupid by breaking up with him. He makes me really happy! We laugh a lot and stay up till 3 in the morning just talking.. We always have something to say! Now thinking back I truly didn't have a good reason for breaking up with him other than he was perfect! And there's one song that I burst into tears listening to.. I can't help but wonder if maybe he likes me to? What should I do?

You should stay away from him. He has a girlfriend and he's happy. Does his girlfriend know you guys are talking late, until 3 in the morning? I don't know if that would fly with her, and I don't think you want to be the one to break up a happy relationship.

I'm sorry you guys aren't together anymore but that's what you have to deal with now. Try to move on because talking to him isn't helping.

I agree you should stay away from him. Even these late night forever long chats need to stop. He is happy with whomever he is with now. You broke up with him, so now you just need to let him go.

I think you should let him know how you feel. Worse comes to worse and he won't chat anymore, or you can continue as friend or better yet he will want you back as well. I just got into contact with a boyfriend from high school/college (dated 2 X). Just found out we broke up due to misunderstanding. Although we are both very happy, we are both married, we will continue our friendship to the end of our days. Must point out, it was not a sexual relationship. Funny thing is if we would have known this before meeting our current spouse we would have ended up with each other!

you still have a chance.

I agree. You still have a chance. You've got nothing to lose by telling him how you feel. After all if he's talking till 3am with you. Where is this girlfriend! If he back off and cuts down on your conversations because of it, you'll have your answer alls fair in love and war. Try to remember what made you break up in the first place, you say it was something stupid, but it annoyed you enough at the time and could happen again once the honeymoon period wears off and all little faults come to the surface.:)

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Originally Posted by caz1961

i agree. you still have a chance. youve got nothing to lose by telling him how you feel. after all if hes talking till 3am with you. where is this girlfriend! if he back off and cuts down on your conversations because of it, you'll have your answer alls fair in love and war. try to remember what made you break up in the first place, you say it was something stupid, but it annoyed you enough at the time and could happen again once the honeymoon period wears off and all little faults come to the surface.:)

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I disagree she needs to leave him alone if he is happy. It will just end up messing up his head. Then if they would end up getting back together, she will just realize after awhile that she doesn't want to be with him again and break up with him. Then there will be two relationships totally ruined.

Cjeep, I disagree. If his relationship is stable, she will not affect him. He will just not be into her. Furthermore if he breaks up with the other girl, it was not meant to be. He will have a choice. As far as messing up his head, if he is that unstable neither girl will want him. He does not have any commitment with this girl, he is neither engaged or married.

I concur with cjeep23.

Leave him be. He is happy.

If he was that happy he wouldn't be spending so much time talking and laughing till 3am with his ex. He would be doing that with new girlfriend

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Originally Posted by Blyndsey45

Now I'm realizing I was so stupid by breaking up with him.

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Well you live and you learn.

No sense in crying over spilled milk. I'm sure you won't make the same mistake the second time around.

How long has it been since you broke up with him? If he is happy then I would say to not to tell him how you feel. I would just continue with the talking for now. If you hang in there (not put your life on hold) and continue being his friend then maybe your guys time will come again. For now just live your life and realize that you made a mistake by breaking up with him so there isn't much you can do for now

How happy would you be talking to him if he didn't have a girlfriend right now? It seems easy to question and have regret when you see that the other person has moved on. I would think if you had a boyfriend and he was still single, we wouldn't be having this conversation would we?

Okay your broken up, and friendly, now he has a g/f (competition) and your jealous(?) he has one.

You obviously are still hurt, and haven't reconciled your own feelings, or else you would be happy he has someone he is happy with.

Back away, and sort yourself out, because even though you broke up, you still have those old feelings, and are now second guessing yourself, and your decision, and that does you no good.

I think you still carried hopes of getting back together, and now that hope has been squashed, and your disappointed.

I don't get it, I mean I usually agree with the response on here but it seems that everyone is so against getting back together with an EX. She broke up with him a year ago, she feels like she made a mistake, what if its something that he wants too. I mean I understand he has a new girlfriend so I am not telling her to act on it, but she could have realize she was wrong and wants him back. Why dose something have to be wrong with her or is in the wrong for wanting to be with her ex again.

I think what everyone is getting at is the motive behind wanting him back. Does she really want him back? Or is she just jealous he is with someone else? If she does get him back.. are the problems that caused the first break up still there? I think what everyone is trying to say is that if he is happy with his current relationship, she should leave him alone and IF he realizes his current girlfriend is not right for him THEN make her move. I think the worry is that he might realize he still has feelings for her, they get back together, she feels the satisfaction of getting him back but then realizes again she does not want to be with him, they break up AGAIN, guy loses perfectly good girl over the whole thing. Guy gets messed up again.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Okay your broken up, and friendly, now he has a g/f (competition) and your jealous(?) he has one.

You obviously are still hurt, and haven't reconciled your own feelings, or else you would be happy he has someone he is happy with.

Back away, and sort yourself out, because even though you broke up, you still have those old feelings, and are now second guessing yourself, and your decision, and that does you no good.

I think you still carried hopes of getting back together, and now that hope has been squashed, and your disappointed.

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Wow thanks I will try and think about if it's just jealousy..

I don't think it's fair for you to use him like a yo-yo. One minute you like him, so you want him close, the next you don't, so you push him away.

And apparently he doesn't make you THAT happy, because you broke up with him. It seems you're a little jealous now that he's found someone that makes HIM happy, and it's not YOU.

Keep your feelings to yourself, and stop talking to him so much. You're digging yourself a whole, putting him in a bad position, and breaking another girl's heart.

This isn't a Hollywood movie people, this is real life. It is so selfish to consider breaking up a perfectly happy relationship for the sake of YOUR happiness.

BOTTOM LINE: He is happy with someone else. He is off limits. Stop thinking about yourself and think about how happy he is now. He has a life too, you know.