My fiancé and I broke up two months ago and we have kept in contact with one another for the entire period she keeps telling me she loves me and has feelings for me but doesn't want to be with me at this time and then out of nowhere she tells me she want to start seeing other people and she just sent me pics in my email there night before and we had an emotional date a couple of days ago what do I do and what is she doing

She is scared of being alone and as long as you are there she will keep swinging you back and forth I know I did it to my ex because I was scared I would be alone and all it did was cause a good guy pain and make me feel louse about myself talk to her tell her either you guys get back together all the way or you are done being her back up man

After a break-up no contact whatsoever is the first step in the healing process so you can move on. A year later its your best plan right now in my opinion.

I'd cut ALL contact with her - you're too available to her. Leave her ALONE. Move on. She has you your - you're being gtoo soft I nthis situation - too much of a 'nice guy'. Being there for her.

People want what they can't have - she has you. Push over. Be a challeneg again - the care free guy you were when you first met. Not some love sick puppy - YUCK!

Is this the same girl you posted about previously that your family dislikes because of her bad reputation, the one you lost the child with??

Yes it is.

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Originally Posted by momincali

Is this the same gil you posted about peviously that you family dislikes because of he bad eputation, the one you lost the child with???

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Yes it is and I don't know what to do

After reading the other posts my advice to you is to run like the wind away from her and don't look back.

She doesn't sound like a serious contender. You need to be honest enough with yourself and take a look at why your family didn't like her. They must have seen something that you were ignoring.

You say you don't know what to do, often times we do know, we just want to find a different answer.

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Originally Posted by giambi25

my fiance and i broke up two months ago and we have kept in contact with one another for the entire period she keeps telling me she loves me and has feelings for me but doesnt want to be with me at this time and then out of nowhere she tells me she want to start seeing other people and she just sent me pics in my email ther nite before and we had an emotional date a couple of days ago what do i do and what is she doing

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Sounds like she is putting you on the back burner. Manipulating you for either her own gratification or so that she can call you up when all fails with her other relationships. See other people. I'd try my best to completely ignore her, get her out of your system.

Well - I think he's in love with the idea of a relationship and not this gal. That's really needy. You need to be very comfortable with yourself first - if you don't love yurself - how the hell can others love you?