Hello all,

I am a happily married 21yr old female. My husband is 23 and we have no children. I had ex's that could make me orgasm through oral stimulation, but my husband (bless his heart) just can't figure out how to get me to 'finish'. He's a sensitive guy and I love him to death and I'm sure he knows he just can't get it right, but how can I give him tips?

I'm scared I might hurt his feelings or he might get too nervous and not want to try again, or images of my ex and I (he was my ex's best friend) might pop up in his head and ruin the very thought of going down on me all together if I try to give him tips; or I might just be thinking about his emotional aspect too much... What should I try?

Maybe there isn't enough excitement in it for me? The ex wasn't exciting; he was just quick and 'got the job done' so to speak;)

Serious answers only. Please and thank you.

Have you asked your husband how he'd like tips?

The female body--and especially the female orgasm!--is too weird to be able to say "always do this, never do that".

You need to be able to communicate with him, honestly and openly.

So... I'd ask HIM how he'd like to be approached about it.

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Originally Posted by Synnen

Have you asked your husband how he'd like tips?

The female body--and especially the female orgasm!--is too weird to be able to say "always do this, never do that".

You need to be able to communicate with him, honestly and openly.

So...I'd ask HIM how he'd like to be approached about it.

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That's a good point! He's been a bit distand (sexually) lately; so I cleaned for him so he won't have to when he get's home today and plan on making a nice dinner and talking to him about what's wrong with him and I may just ask him about this as well if all goes nicely. Thanks :)

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Originally Posted by Synnen

Have you asked your husband how he'd like tips?

The female body--and especially the female orgasm!--is too weird to be able to say "always do this, never do that".

You need to be able to communicate with him, honestly and openly.

So...I'd ask HIM how he'd like to be approached about it.

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I agree, since he's a sensitive type he might feel inadequit if you tell him wrong, but I assume you know hiim well enough to know how to approach this... you did marry him after all. I hope you know him well enough.

Every woman is different in what she likes and how she likes it precisely. You have to be able to actfully guide him, and he has to be receptive enough to listen and willing to learn.


A really good guy can read you from your reactions... you can not however assume all men are able to do that however.

This is why God invented ears - so women could steer men during oral sex.