I been having problems with my boyfriend lately, it seems as he likes to fight, he always gets angry at me for even the smallest things that are not even worth fighting over, he tells me not to speak to my ex and but he thinks its OK for him to talk to his ex, I've caught him out flirting a few times with chicks but he denies it. It becomes more worse when I could get a call from a family member & then he would accuse it being ''my other boyfriend''

So why do you still date him?

Too many obstacles to be happy.

He is who he is. If you can't accept the way he is, then why stay with him?

You're choosing to suffer. But you can also choose to put a stop to suffering.

These problems your having with your borfriend are major and I hope you see that. There are red flags everywhere and they are screaming at you trying to get your attention.

Your boyfriend is controlling and this is unhealthy. I guess he has the "what is good for the goose isn't good for the gander" syndrome.

If you want peace leave! You can't change him nor his ways and he isn't going change any time soon--believe me. It will only get worse. If you love you then you will leave and not tolerant him nor his ways because believe me when I say "You can do better" but have to believe it. Change starts with you.

I agree with everyone else. If your not happy, get out of the relationship. Life is too short to be fighting all the time over stupid things

I think he's unhappy. You cannot make him happy and therefore he gets mad at you. It's really not you. He needs to take responsibility for whatever it is that he doesn't like about himself.

This relationship sounds like a dog with rabies.

It's time to put it down.

Sounds like a real catch!


You don't seem too broken up over it. I'm going to take a stab and say the relationship has run its course but neither you nor he want to take the initiative to end it.

Problems don't solve themselves.

RUN, do not walk, away from this creep as fast as your legs can carry you! He is bad news, with a capital BAD!

That doesn't sound like any fun at all. Why are you staying, I wouldn't.

I do want to be with him, I do love him heaps, He just snaps at me for something that is small, do you think he may stop getting angry or do you rekon he will continue. Because he only has been actining like this with our relatinship, he hasn't been like this with any of his other relationships

Of course he's going to continue.

Why, you ask?

Simple: you let him treat you like garbage.

Because some people stop controlling afters or there partners after a while, he doesn't care if I go out and see my mates but though, is there like some help he could get to savethis relationship?

People that have anger issues now or control issues are not magically going to grow out of them. They need help. Like counseling help. You can talk to him about going to couple's counseling or something, but honestly, I would just cut my losses and find someone that doesn't need to go to therapy to know how to treat you with respect and love.

Okay, Thank you, Helped me a lot, I no they weren't going to grow out of there problems.

I'm really sorry that he treats you like that. I hope you can find happiness soon, preferably will someone that appreciates you.

Good luck.

Sounds like your both 17th, I don't blame him for looking at other chicks, it what we always do. Giggity giggity, all right.

Yeah same here, I been told I choose the wrong guys

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Originally Posted by cochise7969

Sounds like your both 17th, I don't blame him for looking at other chicks, it what we always do. giggity giggity, alright.

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*slaps forehead*

He treats you like cr*p because you let him by staying with him.

You either decide to put up with it , or you leave. Sure doesn't sound healthy to me.